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August 19, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE! Call For A Chance To Speak With Us One-On-One!
August 12, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:  “My wife is angry because I requested child support. How can I respond in the best way?""Can my spouse revert to a previous stage of limerence?""My husband lost his job, became depressed, and got in an emotional affair. What can I do while my husband is 'figuring it out'?""My husband won't speak to me. How can I create conversations with him in a productive way without pushing?""Is my marriage worth saving?""Do positive changes in my behavior push him away even more?""How do I tell my cheating husband how I feel?"
August 5, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “What do I do when my husband doesn't know what he wants?""What can I do to win my wife back? Is NO contact good?""Should I let my wife go or fight to save her?""What do I do when my wife is emotionally 'gone'? What can I do to let her know I'm here for her?""Is it a good idea for us to be romantic during her affair?""I've done all the wrong things. What do I do now?""We tried to reconcile, but he keeps going back to her.""How do I get my wife to trust me again?"
July 29, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:  “How can I save my marriage after we separated?""I feel like my husband is just coming to the workshop to appease me. Should I still come to the workshop?""How do I reconnect with my wife once I move closer to her?""How do I use SMART contact without business items?""How do you let go of a marraige when you have been divorced for a year?""Should we avoid family while trying to work on our marriage?""Is the workshop the best tool to help us save our marriage?""Is it necessary to talk about my husband's affair partner?""How can I respond when he says I'm controlling?""I'm changing by doing my PIES. Could that backfire?"
July 22, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:  “I've been doing SMART contact for two weeks. When should I contact my spouse about non-business items?""I feel distant from my spouse during our separation. How do I use SMART contact with an introverted spouse?""My wife is unaware of her limerence. How can I bring it up?""How do I bring my spouse back when they'd rather be alone?""We've been separated for a year. Is intimacy during separation a good idea?""My son attempted suicide because of father's affair.""Wife now with a controlling affair partner. What can I do?"
July 15, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:  “If my wife moves back but is still involved with her affair partner, what kind of boundaries should I set?""Will intervention stop limerence from continuing?""No contact for a year. How can I start the conversation?""How can I get my wife to talk to me?""My husband separated from me so he can 'miss me and fall in love with me' again. How do we fix things?""My husband is still having an affair, but he is still intimate with me. He says he cannot connect emotionally with me. What can I do?""Husband has more in common with his affair partner than with me. I want to save the marriage, but he does not want to. How can I save the marriage?""Husband is seeking group sex. Is this normal behavior for a person in limerence?"
July 8, 2019
Marriage Helper LIVE
July 1, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes speak with callers about the following questions:  “Should I tell my wife I lover her and want to make it work before our court hearing date?""Now that my husband is home, what do I do?""Do I keep trying to save our marriage or give up?""Is it possible to reconcile after 5 years of reconciliation?""Can limerence happen with the same person more than once?""What can I do to get my wife to come back?""How do I control my emotions to be who she needs me to be?"
June 24, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “How do I keep standing for my marriage when I want to give up?""When should I ask my spouse to come to the workshop?""Can I save the marriage when my wife doesn't want to?""My husband is contemplating divorce. How do I talk to him?""How can I avoid PUSH behaviors while living with my spouse?""Husband got affair partner pregnant, but he still loves me. What do I do?""How can my husband and I move past our previous affairs?"
June 17, 2019
Live Caller Q&A With Kimberly Holmes & Amber Nickle In this podcast, Kimberly Holmes & Amber Nickle address these questions: "How do I talk to my wife while avoiding PUSH behaviors?""How do I set boundaries to make our marriage better?""How do I voice my concerns without sounding controlling?""Should I pursue answers ro wait for my wife to bring it up?""How do I get my husband to talk about our marriage?""Is my husband having an affair and not telling me?
June 10, 2019
Live Caller Q&A With Kimberly Holmes & Jim Pourteau.  In this podcast, Kimberly Holmes & Jim Pourteau address these questions: "My wife is sending mixed signals. Should I start no contact?""When should I stop trying to save my marriage?""How do I ask my reluctant spouse to come to the workshop?""How do I start reconciliation the right way?""Should I tell my teenage son about our marriage situation?""Wife diagnosed me as a narcissist. What do I do?""How do I handle my husband's vacillation?"
June 3, 2019
Marriage Helper LIVE
May 13, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “Married for 41 years. ography use throughout marriage. Wife left unexpectedly. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Husband ‘can’t live this way anymore.’ I have confidence our relationship work, but he is not sure that he wants it to. How do I get past the strong emotions to do the things I need to do?”“I found out a year ago my wife had been in an affair for 18 months. We still live together. She has filed for divorce, but she is not actively moving forward with it. Is it smart for me to require coaching as criteria if we are going to stay together?”“My husband is having an affair with his coworker. He agreed he would not introduce children to affair partner. He wants our kids to meet her kids at work picnic. How do I talk to him about this without pushing?”“Wife had affair. I am moving 800 miles away for a job. What can I do from that far away to show her I still want her to be a part of my life?”“Wife recently moved out, and she took kids with her. She doesn’t love me anymore. I did too many push behaviors. How  will she notice me working on my PIES when she only focuses on the kids?” You’ll also hear about: Affair addictionPIESHow to pick a good counselor
May 6, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My wife left me for our children’s music teacher. She is in another country. She is vilifying me. How do I save my marriage?”“Coming out of the end of a midlife crisis with limerence involved. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband of 25 years left me. He filed for legal separation. Is intervention a good option to bring him to talk?”“My husband had an affair after being married for 28 years. We haven’t talked in a long time. I want to share my heart. What do I do?”“My wife left me for my best friend after 8 years of marriage. Would you suggest that I stay in SMART contact or interfere with SMART contact to try to get her to attend the workshop?”“My husband is having an emotional affair with a coworker. He is confused on what to do. What should I do?” You’ll also hear about: SMART ContactPush behaviors
April 29, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “What is the success rate for the workshop?”“How do I navigate SMART contact with my husband and know when it is time to talk about our relationship?”“How can I increase my communication with my husband as he does not talk to me? He just wants the marriage to be over.”“I have been separated from my wife for about two months. Since we’ve been separated, she says I haven’t showed her any reasons to fight for the marriage. How do I show her I want to save the marriage?”“Separated for a year. I feel like all hope is lost. 9 year old child is involved. I don’t know what to do anymore.”“Problematic marriage. Go through periods of being separated and being together. We have a lack of intimacy and connection. How do I break down that wall?”“Basically roommates with my spouse. I am sleeping in the living room. I’m working on my PIES. How do I put my marriage back together?”
April 22, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My husband had an affair, but wants to end it and come back home. He is afraid that his affair partner will harm herself if he leaves her. How do I help him navigate that?”“His family invited me to celebrate Easter with them, but other people are telling me I shouldn’t go. What should I do?”“My wife and I got in an argument, and she told me she is done. We’re still living in the same house. I don’t know what to do.”“I found my wife texting another man, and I told her to get out. She told me she wants a divorce. She says she misses me, but she is dating other men. She wants us to sell our house. What can I do to have her take a second to think about her decision?”“My wife is with another person, and he is trying to make himself a father figure to our children after only two months. Should I expect this to be a temporary phase, or should I be concerned that this person is going to be the step-father of my children?”“My husband and his affair partner had a baby. He is also the father of my child. I still love him, but he has cut off contact with me. At the least, how can I make him co-parent my child instead of having no contact?”“Since my husband began his affair, could it have evolved into love instead of limerence? How do I do SMART contact when he is so hostile and mean to me?”
April 15, 2019
On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My husband wants to move back in part time, but he doesn’t seem committed. If he’s not committed, I don’t know if I show let him move back in. Do you think I should let him move back in part time?”“My wife said she was adamant about wanting a divorce, but it has been 6 months without her acting on it. I want to give her a timeline of when she needs to make a decision by. How long should I give her to decide?”“My wife and I are separated, but we are starting to hang out a lot. She recently told me she never sees us getting back together. What can I do to positively influence my situation?”“My wife agreed to work on our relationship, but a week later she told me she wants a divorce. She keeps changing her mind. I’m really confused, and I don’t know what to do.”“I jumped into the relationship with my current husband quickly after ending my relationship with my ex-husband. He treats me well, but I don’t have the feelings for him that I should.”“How can I show my wife unconditional love while separated without seeming too pushy?”“My husband said he regrets his affair, but he has a vacation scheduled with his affair partner. It is always so back and forth. Why should I try to save my marriage when he keeps going deeper in his relationship with the other woman?”“My daughter is in limerence with a man who left his wife to be with her. The relationship has changed her completely. We do not support her relationship, but we love her very much. My friends are telling me that we should tell her we accept the relationship so that she should come back home. I don’t know what to do.”
April 8, 2019
Join us for Marriage Helper Live. Every Monday at 12:30pm CST
March 25, 2019
On today's show, Dr. Joe Beam along with Client Representative, Marc Highland discuss the following:  "I had an affair and I would like to work with my wife on our marriage. How is it possible to move past my emotional connection to the affair partner?" "My husband wants to work on the marriage, but he's still in deep, emotional limerence with someone across the world. How do I ask him about attending the Workshop without pressuring/manipulating him?""Did I do the wrong thing by confronting my wife about her past affair partner?"   You'll also hear about Things a person can do in order to get past an affair. The best way to approach your spouse about the workshop.
March 18, 2019
Join us for Marriage Helper LIVE! Dr. Joe Beam & co-host Amber Nickle will be speaking with you today!
March 11, 2019
On this episode of Marriage Helper live, you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam and live callers speak about: The difference between reconciliation & forgivenessWhat it means when a spouse says, "I'm done."How to (patiently) implement S.M.A.R.T. ContactMental disorders & how they affect reconciliation/repairing a marriage You'll also learn how to build trust over time with consistency in your actions (not perfection) and how to understand your spouse's emotions. Dr. Joe Beam explains "logic cannot overpower emtions...but you can overcome emotions with time and consistency in your actions."
March 4, 2019
On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to: "My wife reacted negatively to this one situation where I did something that appeared controlling. How do I proceed? We've been separated 5 months, and this just happened one week ago."   "My husband is hesitant to return home because he doesn't want things to go back to how they were. How can I work on this issue? We've both had affairs."   "Is my wife experiencing cognitive dissonance while she's in her affair? She has become mean toward me, and removed herself from our grown children."   "My husband seemed to have positive interactions with me, and now all of the sudden, he still wants to go through with mediation- what do I do?"   And MORE!   You'll also hear about: How to renew your focus, especially with SMART ContactWhat "Vengeance Affairs" areCompartmentalized thinking within Cognitive Dissonance (and the 2 potential paths/outcomes)How to think and what to think when it seems like your marriage is about to end
February 25, 2019
In this episode you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam respond to live callers from our Marriage Helper Live Broadcast. Featured on this episode: "My wife is in a limerent affair. She's getting the best of both worlds by seeing her partner and then seeing me at home. Will she continue this affair if she doesn't know what consequences may happen? Should I tell her what the consequences are?"   "My husband has been in a 6 year affair. He's never filed for divorce. What is making the affair last so long? Are the PIES helping/hurting?"   "My husband and I are starting the reconciliation process. What does it look like? He keeps pushing back and isn't engaged."   "My husband moved back without any accountability in place (he had an affair before) was this the right thing to do?"   "My wife loves, but isn't in love with me. I'm getting accused of trying to force a relationship, but she's sending mixed signals. Can you give me direction on what to do?"   You'll also hear: How to manage the expectations you have for your spouseThe purpose of using the PIES
February 18, 2019
This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following: "Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong." You'll also learn...  How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction
February 11, 2019
Live Caller Q&A With Jim Pourteau. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage! In this Episode, Jim Pourteau speaks about how to build positive emotions and have positive communication with your spouse. He also explains how to approach SMART contact and being a "Safe Place" correctly.  Throughout this episode, Jim speaks with spouses who are "standing" for their marriages and gives helpful insight for their specific situations- which can help you too! How to go about SMART contact"How do I interact with my husband who is in limerence?"" I feel "stuck" in where my marriage is at with my husband. How do we move forward?""How can I be a "safe place" without endorsing my wife's behavior?""I learned I'm controlling. I've changed and want to save my marriage...but my husband doesn't want much to do with me. What do I do?"
January 14, 2019
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
January 7, 2019
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.  In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics: Stops (Safegaurds That Offer Protection)Cores (Continuing Our Relaitonship Essentials)What to do when your huband leaves with no warningWhat is the Save My Marriage Course?How to move forward after caught in limerent affairHow to communicate while separated in different countries
January 2, 2019
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
December 26, 2018
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood.  In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood address these topics: “My husband and I are no longer on the same spiritual note. My husband wants to be intimate. Previously when we have not been intimate, there is no contact. When should I draw the line?”“My wife wants to move out and doesn’t want to be in our marriage anymore. She wants me to sell her engagement ring, and I respect her wishes, but I do not feel right about it. What should I do?”“Everyone keeps telling me I need to start the divorce proceedings. I’m not sure that is the best thing to do. I want more than anything to save my marriage.”“My husband came back home three weeks ago. I feel a little awkward, and I’m not sure to act around him now.”“My husband said he wants to leave because of the way I’ve been treating him. He is seeing someone else. How can I create interaction between us?”“Do I continue holding on to our marriage if he continues holding on to his relationship with his affair partner?”
December 17, 2018
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics: “I’m struggling with trying to study every single detail that happens between me and my husband. I want to put my marriage back together, but everything I do seems to pull it further apart. How do I change my negative behaviors and do positive things instead?”“My wife and I have struggled with intimacy for the last 12 years. How do I rekindle intimacy between us?”“My husband and I are trying to reconcile. Does the workshop help with reconciliation?”“My wife and I are struggling financially through our divorce process. I do not feel like selling our house is a good option, but it would alleviate our financial stress. What do you advise on that?”“My wife is struggling to forgive me. I want her to go to the workshop, but how do I get her to attend without her feeling controlled?”“When my daughter left home my husband completely changed and then had an affair. He keeps blaming me for everything. I don’t know what to do.”
December 3, 2018
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
November 19, 2018
Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
November 12, 2018
Today, for the first time, we answer live callers during our live video broadcast. If you would like to join the show, be sure to find us on facebook at Marriage Helper. Every Monday we go live at 12:30pm CST. Please join our next show, because we'd love to have you and to help you!
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