Love this podcast. The host and the guests are insightful and their honest and intelligent discussions have lead me to examine my beliefs and privileges and how I can do my part to not cause further harm to others. Thanks for making this!
Enjoyed episode about how men attract women wrong.
This was a great episode. I see a lot of guys who think cleanliness, personal grooming and clothing style just as you presented it. They just aren’t aware and sometimes aren’t willing to hear that one can be so much more of who they want to be if they apply some self awareness, discipline, and maybe a little style. Taking care of one’s self in these ways can be so fulfilling in many ways. Positivity, self worth and confidence to name a few. Your podcast is interesting and insightful and always enjoyable. Thanks for discussing things men deal with in an approachable way.
Honest and imperfect like all of us
I appreciate Aymann’s acknowledgment of his imperfect ways of responding to situations. He seems to be trying to unpack his biases and how the narrow definition of masculinity has affected him. That is very brave especially in our often attacking social media climate. I thought he was brutally honest about how he reacted to the right wing troll in that it did make him want to defend himself when he was triggered. I think many people edit out the imperfect ways we react and pretend we always rise above.
What I feel from his podcast is that he is trying to understand himself, our culture, and to learn and grow.
Sometimes the show seems to trail off at the end unfinished, but perhaps that is true to life and the conversation can keep going within ourselves.
One Man’s Opinion...
While an interesting listen, this podcast is of little value.
To start with the views expressed are highly colored by the author’s demographic - a young (?Millennial?) gay, inner city, Muslim. While this is an interesting window to look through it hardly describes me or the majority of other men in the US.
I was expecting a discussion of what being a man meant in the past, what it means now, and the relative merits and detriments to this change. However, this podcast is more of a windsock to what is fashionable today.
Personally I would have liked to hear about the concept of manhood in the
“Great Generation” in the 1940’s, and how cultural forces such as the “Women’s Movement” and “Me Too” have sculpted it into a different form, and whether this has been positive or negative.
On the positive side, I appreciated some of the authors guests, like a boxer discussing if you had to fight to be a man, and a transgender person of color talking about how the police treat him differently now he is a man.
While not exactly a waste of time, the appeal of this is mainly emotional rather than learning anything of substance.
Hey nobody is perfect but I would have done the same in internet trolling moment of being attack but it’s nice to see a man try to grow in a positive manner keep doing what you do Young Drizzle
Toxic masculine poser host
I listened to a few episodes on my Slate+ subscription and could barely get through an entire one without being super annoyed. Aymann is extremely condescending and holds so many toxically masculine views, without the awareness of what an ignorant, egotistical and homophobic place he’s coming from. He seems to think he’s always correct and basically sounds like he’s trying desperately hard to fit into traditionally masculine ideals.
I love that slate tries to put out great podcasts with a diverse slew of perspectives— but this guy deserves no woke credentials. I am constantly offended by his attempt to present himself as a white heteronormative male in the form of a Middle Eastern Muslim man.
Strongly advocate that slate cancels this garbage heap of a podcast.
So good, so real
These conversations are uniquely honest. Men being vulnerable and real with each other. This is something I have not witnessed much in my lifetime. As a mental health professional and a human being who cares about male human beings, I will recommend this again and again.
J to tha Bro
As a woman we talk and think all the time about oppressive gender stereotypes, but often fail to acknowledge the same forces that are in place for men. I love this honest, nuanced conversation about what it means to “be a man” in today’s America— and love even more that it’s from the perspective of a 2nd generation Muslim host. Great stuff.
One of my friends and I often discuss what it means to be a “real man”, he’s a dark-skinned Latino man and I’m a white woman. I was looking for a podcast to address issues of modern manhood in a surprising, nuanced, humorous and authentic way...I found it.
I think what you’re talking about is extremely important. I am an older white woman. Born and raised Jewish, in my family racism was not even an option. Wrong. Period. Unfortunately, I see “driving while Black” rampant in my small New York City. I see and feel the beating down and constant worry hurting all my dark male friends. And I see and believe that most Caucasian’s think it’s not real. It’s simply not happening. You are educating, and I think that’s the only way to make progress. Kudos!
All over the place
I started listening with the first episode but have since lost interest. The first episode was extremely relatable to me, and so was the next one. The last several episodes however have been aimed at a specific target audience and has not been very relatable.
I think this show is using its platform to advocate for the rights of minority groups and to discourage typical masculine behavior. This is a noble goal, but misses the mark of being relatable to the general audience. If you fall into one of these groups or are a passionate supporter of one, this show is for you. If you are a man who is looking for a podcast that will relate to your struggles and offer solutions or ideas, move along.
Great host with a interesting world view!
The host is a really interesting guy with a cool world view. His web series Who's Afraid Of Aymann Ismail? is also super interesting - check it out to see how Muslims are treated on a daily basis! It's quite eye-opening. His experiences growing up as a Muslim man make this show all the more fascinating! Highly recommend!
Dishes episode made me want to rip my hair out
I found this episode on the Slate website and have only listened to the dishes episode. I have to say, this show needs a woman editor or more women involved in the production process. You can't claim to investigate masculinity without also examining the ways masculinity affects women. I am really shocked by how much time in this episode was focused on men's guilt and how much time WASN'T focused on the women who WERE DOING THE DISHES. The only person who talked about doing the dishes was a man.......when you've already said that the women are consistently doing the dishes more in the office. Why did you choose to leave out the voices of women doing the dishes? Also I wanted to pull my hair out when Mike Pesca talked about "moving chairs"–you are missing that in the workplace, doing ACTUAL WORK is the men's work. Women are historically resigned to the domestic labor EVEN IN THE WORKPLACE. You need to do some research on domestic labor and the split work done by men and women. The research is out there, and this is a lazy excuse of an episode on gender dispartities in the workplace. I am very disappointed.
About Time! 💀♥️
I’ve been impatiently waiting for a conversation by men, for everybody - this is it. I applaud Aymann for his honesty and genuine intent to learn. It allows for a safe space for us to explore masculinity, with nuance and complexity, and begin to deconstruct it’s toxicity. Much needed, you have my support and appreciation. Blessings on blessings 🤲🏼 -Mira
Better not bring your kids
I like the podcast a lot I’d love to listen to it with my daughter as well so that we could talk about things like how previous generations used to beat the crap out of each other but now we try not to do that unfortunately can get a little vulgar at times Or simply make reference to sex which they don’t know exist yet
I’ve been listening to nothing but true crime podcasts and I needed a break. I came across Man up and I’m sure glad I did. Great radio voice with mellow beats in the background make the podcast that much better.
I really enjoy this show! I would like for it to be a little longer though. So far the topics have been great! Keep it up!
Quality questions. Conscientious.
Great material, honest questions, thoughtful reflection. It’s helpful being exposed to Kelly’s reality, reflecting on how different our own may or may not have been. Hater reviewers here may have had the luxury of not ever needing to fight to survive. I certainly had that. And I don’t agree that violence is necessary to know or enter manhood but I’d allow that for some there may not be much choice.
Gotta say I get a kick out of seeing how polarized some of these reviews are. Those against the Kelly show certainly have a sound that seems privileged. Let our host ask these questions. Our boys, our men, many without involved fathers, need to hear these various and differing perspectives. Let them be adults & form their own conclusions.
Toxic masculinity is so 2000andlate
I love hearing this perspective on masculinity from someone holding the identities of being an American Muslim, POC growing up in a city like Newark, and working on so many hip projects in media that can surely put to question and challenge so much we believe to be true about what masculinity means to us in 2019.
Funny, refreshing, thoughtful
I was looking for new podcasts to listen to and I’m so excited to start following this one! This is a continual conversation we need to be having.
Man to Man talk
Dope melodies with an interesting prospective. I can’t wait to hear next weeks episode!
Do all the guest disagree with the entire premise of the show?
Um... we start by interviewing a guy who can’t even HEAR the basic message of the show? Who refuses to challenge the status quo of what it means to be a man? It’s painful to listen to. This doesn’t bode well for the season...
And I know nothing about the host, but some guy that likes to yell owns a boxing gym and thinks fighting is unavoidable.
Bold, real, provoking!
I believe these conversations are very necessary. It provides an opportunity to have dialogue around what we think we know and how someone else's reality can differ from our own. I related to some of the conversation and both Aymann and Kelly's experiences. If you don't agree with the podcast, I hope it can provoke you to share your views constructively. ~ Teabout~
Why would anyone want advice on how to be a man from a random man-child who has had a handful of years as an 'adult'?
Long overdue, like nothing else out there
It’s rare to hear honest conversations that revel in the complexities of life. Episode 1 is a refreshing take on “toxic masculinity” that does not condone or condemn. Aymann and Eric Kelly help us see the reality of being a man and help us begin to move toward being better men.
Love Aymann and the mission of this show
This host is brilliant and charismatic. Man Up is a searching, conscientious, fun show about how to be a good man in the 21st century, and it fills a need in our culture. Aymann hosts smart, curious, and nonjudgmental conversations about manhood, how to pursue it well, and what it means for people of all genders. Can't wait for more.
I just love the idea behind this show. By interviewing people of different perspectives and experiences, Aymann is jumbling together all these different views of what it’s really like to be a “man,” all while giving his own opinions and experiences on the matters. Ultimately, he is allowing his listeners to connect with or open up to other people’s views, forming an idea themselves of what being a man really means.
Fresh and Original, can’t wait to hear more
First ep. was great. You may not agree with the guests idea of what a man is supposed to be or look like, but that’s the point. Aymann is exploring the idea through the eyes of ppl in different circumstances/environments.
Ugh. "Men are nothing without violence"
I am not sure where this is going, but the first episode was garbage. The idea that you don't know yourself as a "man" unless you physically hurt other people is terrible. I would take this as an interesting story from a misguided man who was raised on violence, but you were interviewing him. Taking it all in. No pushback. I would remove your voice, or become more interesting.
I hope that your journey to understand what a "man" is gets a bit more human and enlightened. I am not going to listen to it though... Sounds like it is going to be a long journey...
Excited to hear this
Great to hear that these tough discussions will finally have an outlet. Definitely listening.
LOVE THIS!!!! can’t wait for the first episode TODAY!!!!
I don't want advice on how to be a man in the modern world from a confused twenty-something.