Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist, explores the complex world of relationships and connection. What underlies our connection with ourselves and others? Why do we show up the way we do in our romantic relationships, professional life, friendships, our own health and wellness and more? How do we maintain long term connections that thrive? Mark has a fun, no holds barred, no BS approach to exploring the human condition and the fundamentals of all our human connections.
Sam Skelly is a dear friend of mine that has truly changed lives with her work on loving ourselves, loving our bodies and using breathwork to meet our pain with love. Whatever pain you might be experiencing in your life and whether you know the root cause of your pain or not, Sam walks you through how to meet pain with love. Sam specializes in loving our bodies and our relationship with food, but also with using breathwork as the bridge to meeting our pain. When we meet our pain with love, finally the pain can transform. Sam walks us through a practical example of how to use breathwork in everyday life. If you think that the idea of breathwork isn’t for you, then this episode is most definitely for you!
2 mins - Intro to episode.
10 mins - Intro to Sam Skelly, how Mark and Sam met, the mission of hungry for happiness.
15 mins - The link between the body and emotions.
20 mins - Childhood messaging around bodies and eating.
28 mins - The game of life if the ultimate goal of happiness.
30 mins - Meeting pain with love.
36 mins - Meditation and breath work.
43 mins - Breathwork with Pause, how we stop ‘doing’ and learn to just be, why are we addicted to our phones?
48 mins - 20 second breathwork example.
53 mins - Breathwork as a metaphor for life.
55 mins - Pain that is preverbal, how breathwork sessions can give rise to intergenerational pain.
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*Ghosting* it's a phenomenon! One of the most common questions I am asked is 'how do I respond to this person who has just suddenly disappeared?' In this video we unpack the phenomenon of ghosting. Why is is happening? What is behind it? How should we respond, if at all? If you've ever ghosted someone, or been ghosted, this episode is for you!
John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) has made his mark on Instagram, sharing authentic, raw and unfiltered views on life, love and everything in-between. This week I was honored to discuss his approach and in particular we go deep on the difference between young love and healthy love. If you are wondering how to step into healthy love and beyond the highs and lows of superficial dating, then John Kim is your man!
1 min - Intro to episode.
2 mins - Being authentic online.
5 mins - Being a therapist vs being a coach.
12 mins - Starting over and having nothing to lose.
16 mins - Healthy love vs unhealthy love or young love.
24 mins - Relationships are built, not found.
29 mins - The bad boy and the codependent.
35 mins - False beliefs and limiting beliefs.
41 mins - Why don’t we study relationships?
45 mins - Accepting that not all relationships are meant to last.
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Jamie Elizabeth Thompson - Awaken Your Sexual Self
Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a holistic intimacy and sex specialist and we had the most amazing conversation about awakening our sexual selves. Sex and sexuality is such a difficult topic for so many people. Whether it be via our culture, familial upbringing, or religious conditioning, there is still so much shame wrapped up in our sexual selves. Jamie and I discuss how we can move through our conditioning and use our vulnerability to empower and explore our sexual selves. Jamie brings so much understanding and knowledge on the power of the erotic to this episode and I’m so excited to bring you this important conversation, whatever your sexuality, relationship type or gender this episode is for you.
1 min - Introduction to the episode on sex and sexuality.
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8 mins - Intro to Jamie Thomson’s work with sex and sexuality.
12 mins - Sexual energy and using it in your life as well as the bedroom.
16 mins - Puritanism vs hyper-sexualisation.
20 mins - Narratives around female sexual repression and male sexual shame.
27 mins - The shadow side of sex.
30 mins - Erotic intelligence and the erotic actualization pyramid.
32 mins - How we can have great sex and how we can break our conditioning.
40 mins - Breaking down our sexual shame and repression.
47 mins - The feminine sexuality and giving women permission to ask for what they need.
49 mins - Erotic love languages.
60 mins - Asking for what you want and the ways to ask.
1hr 03 mins - Integrating our hearts, minds and genitals.
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I’m so excited to introduce you to Leah Brathwaite. She is a dear friend of mine and I have had the honour of watching her life transform as well as now seeing her write about her personal transformation in her new book. This week we breakdown what life transformation can feel like, from undoing old, traditional or religious scripts for life, to writing new ones based on our deepest truths. Leah’s story will resonate with so many of you, so I can’t wait for you to hear this.
1 min - Mark’s trip to Calgary and it’s serendipity of life.
3 mins - The life we “should” have had.
7 mins - The new ‘Create The Love’ course.
11 mins - Intro to Leah Brathwaite and her book.
15 mins - The “I’ll be happy when” life and how to reclaim your own true life.
20 mins - Peeling back the layers of your conditioning, Leah’s story, ‘performing’ for love.
25 mins - When you look around and don’t recognize your own life.
30 mins - Moments of awakening.
35 mins - When we wake up but just dig deeper.
50 mins - Are you a victim or living through choice?
64 mins - Getting confident with allowing life to move through you.
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Leah’s book: A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul
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Leah is a Soul Advisor, author of 'A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul', speaker, and a woman who is deeply committed to helping others reach their full potential, live a meaningful life and make their dreams a reality. In short, Leah helps women connect to their soul so they can live the lives they dream of. Through her writing, workshops and group mentorship program, she offers guidance to better understand and live in alignment with who you really are, what you really want and what you're meant to do.
Dr. Christopher Ryan - Sex, Connection, Evolution: All Gone Wrong.
I am so excited to introduce an author whose work has impacted my work so significantly. Dr. Christopher Ryan wrote the epic book ‘Sex at Dawn’ in 2010, and he has gone on to continue researching and writing on human evolution. We discuss it all - human evolution, sex and connection, modernity, the agricultural revolution and how it shifted our sexual behaviour, the internet revolution today, and what all of it means for our lives and our happiness. His work is truly fascinating and I am so honoured that he has shared this work with us today.
7 mins - Introducing the book ‘Sex at Dawn’.
13 mins - Sex. What is it all about? How much are we doing it and WHY?
15 mins - The science and research behind ‘Sex at Dawn’.
19 mins - The intention and the truths behind the book.
22 mins - Monogamy and it’s challenges.
24 mins - Sex education around the world today.
28 mins - The modern world and our lack of connection, how does this compare to our evolution?
36 mins - The evolution of civilization from hunter-gathers to today's modern age. What went wrong?
39 mins - The age of the internet, what has social media done to us?
43 mins - The economic system - what has the modernity meant for humankind, what has the agricultural evolution done for us?
53 mins - The history of polygamy in earlier societies.
55 mins - Micro-biomes - what are they, how are they exchanged and how do they affect us.
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Do you throw yourself into your career, or fitness, or diet - so that you can pretend that your relationships aren’t a problem? Do you feel like your always needing to resolve some problem? Today’s episode with Sheri Salata is for you. Sheri leads us in understanding that we are not problems waiting to be solved. We make the mistake of thinking we are broken and everyone else is living an ‘instagram life’. The fact is that we are all our own experts, none of us have it all ‘figured out’ but we all know the recipe to love ourselves home.
5 min - Connection to self, consciousness of self, and Sheri’s new book.
8 min - Sheri’s role with Oprah Winfrey.
10 min - Finding alignment and when we get ‘distracted’ from true alignment.
14 mins - Loving yourself. Love yourself first. Love yourself most. And how does this relate to any relationship?
21 mins - Do you really want to live the life of your dreams, or do you want to continue to skip out? Do you seek from your wounds or from your light?
28 mins - love as both the path and the destination
31 mins - Its never too late to live the life of your dreams.
35 mins - Having your own back everyday.
41 mins - What is the ‘beautiful no?’
44 mins - Not wasting time, how to not waste another day out of alignment. We are not too old and it is not too late.
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Standing up for yourself with love. Terry Real is leading the revolution of breaking down the patriarchy one relationship at a time. He is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author of four acclaimed books on relationships. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI) offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country. Terry's approach is about 'Straight Talk to Difficult People', he has no time for the traditional heirarchical patraichal approach in relationships. He argues that through standing up for yourself with love, not only can relationships be saved, but society can also be transformed from patriarchy to loving equality.
3 min - The gaps in traditional couple therapy approaches.
5 mins - The grandiosity and superior complex in relationship.
6 mins - Moving beyond patriarchy and traditional gender roles.
8 mins - The ‘Grey Divorce’ revolution - the end of women caretaking men.
11 mins - Men aren’t unhappy in marriage, women are.
12 mins - Connection, hierarchies and winning in relationship.
17 mins - The negating of women’s voices in couples therapy.
21 mins - The traditional and newer masculinities.
24 mins - The difference between personal empowerment and relational empowerment - breaking the back of patriarchy. Standing up for yourself with love.
27 mins - Terry's personal experience in confronting the power broker.
29 mins - The use of sex in place of connection.
42 mins - Your partners CNI - what is it and how to use it.
47 mins - We all marry our unfinished business. We are attracted to what needs to be healed.
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Traver Boehm is the leader of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. He coaches, leads, writes, speaks and trains men in the art of connection to self. This week I was honoured to hear Traver’s personal story, how his life completely transformed when he lost his marriage, his business partnership and in the process almost his mind. But far from it, he has come to champion the revolution for men to connect to their most authentic self and redefine their inner masculinity.
9 mins - The two ends of the masculinity continuum - The Marlboro Man versus the Nice Guy.
10 mins - Why do we stick it out with emotional robots? Everyone says they want a ‘conscious’ man, but are they actually ready?
14 mins - Integrating the masculine and feminine, boundaries, trust, sexuality and safety.
19 mins - When a woman can’t connect to her partner, when “she can’t feel you”.
30 mins - Therapy vs coaching, Traver’s first experience with couples therapy.
33 mins - Traver’s divorce and rockbottom breakthrough.
43 mins - Traver’s journey through the spiritual - The Year To Live Project.
55 mins - Breaking through to authenticity.
1hr 10mins - Traver's experience in hospices.
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In this episode I speak with physician, chef, and integrative medicine expert, Dr. Robert Graham. Nowadays, there is more interest and awareness of the link between what we eat and our overall mental and physical wellness. But what does it really mean? What does our gut health mean for our mental health? What are the most important factors driving our health? Is food the ultimate medicine, or is there more to it? This week I jam with my favourite physician and good friend, Dr. Robert Graham to break it all down!
8 mins - The relationship between nutrition and health.
12 mins - Evidence based medicine, what does it mean?
15 mins - The biggest medical crisis of our time? Holistic and integrative medicine? The role of the gut in overall health and wellbeing?
18 mins - The link between gut health and emotional health. How to high conflict relationships impact your overall health?
23 mins - Love and overall health.
28 mins - The most important factor in your health - who you surround yourself with.
32 mins - Fatigue - the most common illness seen today.
35 mins - The link between IBS and our mental wellness.
43 mins - Is food a kind of medicine?
5 mins - Vegetarian vs vegan.
Dr. Robert Graham is a Harvard trained physician, Board Certified in both Internal and Integrative Medicine and has over 15 years of clinical experience. Dr. Graham received his medical degree from the School of Medicine at Stony Brook University Medical Center, Stony Brook, NY and completed his residency in Internal Medicine at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, where he received the Community Service Award and subsequently the prestigious “Attending of the Year” award.
Dr. Graham received a Master’s of Public Health from the Harvard School of Public Health while completing three additional fellowships in General Internal Medicine and Complementary and Integrative Medical Therapies at Harvard Medical School as well as Medical Education at Mount Auburn Hospital in Cambridge, Massachusetts. He also completed course-work in Mind/Body Medicine, Positive Psychology, Lifestyle Medicine, Culinary Medicine, Botanical and Traditional Chinese Medicine. In 2018, Dr. Graham became one of less than twenty doctor/chef’s worldwide, as he obtained his culinary degree from the Natural Gourmet Institute.
Raphael Cano is a love activist and warrior. He and I met very serendipitously in a coffee shop in NYC, and from that day onward our friendship has continued to evolve and expand. Raphael’s mission is to elevate humanity through universal truths and his own divine shine. Raphael’s friendship has been life-changing for me in so many ways, and in this episode I wanted to highlight how Raphael has supported me in having the space to understand how heteronormativity affects people in the LGBTQ+ community. Raphael walks us through his pathway to coming out, then later, to becoming a love warrior. His courage and energy is inspiring and I am so honoured that he shared his story with us for my podcast.
4 mins - How Raphael and Mark first connected - Raphael’s first breakup.
9 mins - Intuition, gut feelings and following your joy. Is it all just love and light?
16 mins - Raphael’s life story - his first kiss, his story of coming out and his upbringing.
26 mins - The HighSchool Bully - and the projection and rejection of being gay.
33 mins - Raphael’s years of denial of his sexuality and the stress of living out of alignment.
39 mins - Raphael’s stepping into alignment, his first boyfriend.
42 mins - Raphael’s family’s response and finding his voice and confidence - how ‘Prayers for Bobby’ impacted him.
50 mins - The Stages of Coming Out - trauma, acceptance and authenticity.
55 mins - Elevating and changing, how dating changes and the dating pool changes.
64 mins - The equality that occurs in a mind, body and soul connected relationship.
70 mins - Come out as your highest self - whatever that might mean for you.
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This week Sheleana Aiyana and I talk about Rising Woman. What does it mean to be a rising woman? How did Sheleana’s life lead her to this work? How does one begin to transform pain and trauma into self-compassion and healing? How can we start stepping into our power? If you have ever been impacted by childhood wounds (all of us) then this episode is for you.
1min - Sheleana’s story - how did she come to do this work.
2.30mins - Denial as a coping mechanism and the wakeup call in betrayal and breakup.
4mins - Acceptance as the path toward healing.
6mins - Shea’s life path - the childhood wounds and traumas.
9mins - Transforming pain into healing.
11mins - What is shadow work? How does our shadow impact us and our relationships?
13mins - What are the most common coaching issues and patterns Sheleana sees?
17mins - How did trauma show up in Sheleana’s life?
23mins - When you are willing and ready to change, when are you sick of your own shit?
25mins - Victim mentality and letting go of it.
33mins - How do we start taking responsibility and stepping into our power?
37mins - Inner child work and self-soothing.
41mins - The difference between compassion and tolerance - the curse of the empath.
46mins - The process of healing, how does it work?
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Rising Woman is led by Sheleana and her co-founder Heather, who are trained facilitators and guides of shadow-work, conscious relationship, breathwork, and tantric practices. Their current offering is the Heal Your Relationships Program. An 8-Week Journey into the Heart of Your Relationship Patterns. Sheleana is also a trained Doula, having gone through multiple certification programs, including a full-spectrum training with midwife Molly Dutton-Kenney.
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman - The Trauma Of Infidelity
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is one of the world’s most preeminent relationship researchers. Along with her husband Dr. John Gottman, they run the Gottman Institute, who have conducted many of the world’s most extensive studies on marital stability. This week we delve straight into trauma, including Dr. Gottman’s previous trauma work, the trauma of infidelity, and the Gottman therapy related to this trauma. Lastly, we discuss their latest book - Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. What is it that makes a good relationship and how do good relationships benefit us?
5mins - Julie’s background in trauma research and her journey to the Gottman Institute.
14mins - Trauma, what is it? What does it do to us? What does it feel like?
21mins - The healing power of connection.
25mins - The Gottman’s couples conflict resolution approach - what questions do you need to ask your partner?
32mins - Cheating, infidelity and the trauma in betrayal.
36mins - Therapy for infidelity, the three-stage process.
41mins - What often leads to infidelity?
50mins - Eight Dates, the Gottman’s newest book on dating and relationships in their initial phases.
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Eight Dates - Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
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James Silvas - Your “Problem” is Your Portal To Growth
Are you looking to change and grow? Or are you committed to repeating your patterns and limits in life? So often we say we want growth in life - and yet we don’t make the choices aligned with that. AND so often other people want to limit our growth! This week James Silvas and Mark discuss the ways we limit ourselves in love, career, life and everything in between. Why do we limit ourselves from growth and success - why do other people limit us - and how can we stop it? This week we unpack it all!
8mins - Mark’s one night stand history!
10mins - Everything you want is in your discomfort/ stretch zone.
13mins - Self talk and when we self sabotage with our internal talk.
15mins - When Mark left the predictability of a ‘stable’ job and career path.
25mins - Are you accountable for your choices, or are you blocking yourself?
31mins - How we stay committed to our misery and stories of the past.
35mins - What makes people successful? - Getting past the boxes you have put yourself in.
45mins - How other people might want to limit us and how to look out for it.
51mins - Dealing with uncertainty in life, how we try to control.
57mins - Confronting pain and discomfort, why is it so hard?
60mins - How to change the way you think - how to change your patterns - how to change your life!
James Silvas is a Peak Performance Coach and Mental Training Specialist with over 13,000 hours of training experience working with high performing teams at Nike, MGM & ADT. He has studied under 4x World Renowned Mental Performance Coach Dr. Mark Guadagnoli while attaining his degree in Kinesiology at UNLV. He has worked with over 6,000+ people on developing/strengthening the mindset that will take individuals/teams to the next level.
The Breakup Special - Rising From The Ashes of Heartbreak
This is 20 minutes jam packed with the most juicy breakup content you could ever need. Mark gets straight into the heart of it -- because this time effing hurts. It doesn’t matter whether you wanted the ending or not, you are hurting and we have all been there. Mark walks alongside you and helps you understand the hardest parts, the most painful parts, and explains to you that this rock bottom can be an anchor and a beginning of new possibilities for a deeper and truer connection to ourself and others. Get ready to rise.
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Amy Young - How To Say Goodbye To Unavailable People, Forever.
This week we have Mark and Amy Young yelling about all things emotional unavailability! Every person has either been caught, is currently caught or will one day be caught in the spell that unavailable people cast over us. We explore why we get caught in the ‘spell’ of unavailable people. How Mark and Amy have both been caught themselves, and how can get unstuck from thinking you’ve found ‘love’ when in reality all you’ve found is pain and suffering. This week is the slap in the face you’ve been waiting for, do not miss it.
5 mins - ‘Bottom feeder bro’ behaviour, why do we want the men who don’t want us?
7 mins - When the body codes drama as chemistry - breaking the spell of choosing someone who is not choosing you.
9 mins - When people are lying to you in dating.
13 mins - Amy’s personal story of the ‘bottom feeder bro’ - how she was going to ‘fix’ the ‘one’.
17 mins - Codependent no more - why Amy read it - why you should too.
25 mins - How you can break the spell.
30 mins - The 5 love languages - what when we have toxic love languages?
38 mins - Why we make excuses for other people.
39 mins - Don’t be afraid to have the hard conversations!
42 mins - When to communicate the issue or self-soothe?
50 mins - What energy are you bringing to dating - to Tinder?
52 mins - Are you ‘picky’, or not picky enough?
55 mins - Are there enough men? What’s going on with men and their emotions?
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Dr. Alexandra Solomon - Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries.
What are boundaries, why are they so hard? Why do we suck at boundaries with parents, exes, co-parents? Why don’t we just unfriend or block people that have hurt us? What is stopping us from letting go?! How the HECK do we do boundaries with our co-parent exes!? We tackle it ALL this week and nothing is off the table! Dr. Alexandra Solomon takes on the hardest of subjects with wisdom and compassion, if you haven't yet read her book find it in the show notes below.
3min: Boundaries, how to deal with boundary violations.
5min: Cultural differences in boundaries.
7min: Emotions and boundaries, childhood and boundaries.
14min: How do we know when a boundary is violated?
16min: Personal empowerment vs relational empowerment.
18min: Types of boundaries, secure vs porous vs rigid.
24min: Vulnerability cycles - what the heck are they?
27min: Voicing and breaking out of a vulnerability cycle.
30min: How to deliver a boundary.
31min: Tricky boundaries - exes! Why don’t we block them or delete them?
37min: Why don’t we just break contact - are we being kind to them or only to ourselves?
39min: BOUNDARIES AND COPARENTING 101
44min: How to hold space for your child - what impacts your child the most during a breakup?
49min: Types of families.
Bryan Reeves - Why My Girlfriend was Always Angry With Me
Bryan Reeves is our guest this week and I am so excited to introduce you to a man who has truly lived a life of adventure and exploration. Bryan and I discuss his journey, from hyper-masculine army careerist, to wandering the Earth, and later to being a relationship and life coach. Bryan talks us through the journey that broke his heart, opened his heart and totally renewed his joy for life. Bryan and Mark go DEEP on all things masculinity this week. Why did Bryan’s girlfriends always end up frustrated and angry with him? Why do men follow Instagram models and damage their relationships with online behaviour? How can childhood emotional neglect - even the most subtle forms - play out in our adult lives? And what about our triggers, how can triggers from previous relationships or previous lives continue to impact our current partners. Mark and Bryan discuss the challenges that every couple is bound to face.
6:00 - The journey from army career to relationship coach.
9:30 - Finding the subject that ‘lit’ me up
10:30 - Why are the women I am in relationship with always angry at me?
15:00 - Instagram and the online world affecting relationships.
22:00 - Childhood emotional neglect - how can the most subtle forms affect our adult life?
28:00 - What triggers us in our parents, what does this reflect in us?
49:00 - Therapy, coaches and relationships, the value of working with someone from outside of our relationship.
51:00 - Triggers from past, childhood and their influence in current situations.
Kelsey Grant - Ready to get Real in Your Relationship?
This week I was over the moon to be speaking with my dear friend Kelsey Grant. Kelsey is an absolute goddess on all things relationships, intimacy, and sex! We got really real on intimacy in every way, how sex relates to connection and visa versa. We got into the juiciest parts of relationship and shared our own pasts on the highest highs and lowest lows - commitment, patterns, past hurts, cheating, breaking up, growing and knowing ourselves.
5min: Sexual intimacy and communication - whats the link?
8min: The vulnerability in sex - can you hide yourself and still enjoy climax?
10min: The differences between men and women when it comes to sex and connection.
12min: Integrity, cheating and shame.
14min: Pleasure and growth, how we change over time.
17min: Connection to self and ghosting, looking at it from both sides. When Mark was like a “Mt Everest Basecamp” of red flags
20min: Honesty in dating - are you dating just to date - to find a partner - to just have fun?
21min: Narcissism is a massive buzzword at the moment, but is it really narcissism?
25min: Taking responsibility in relationships and in life. You aren’t responsible for anyone else’s behaviour, but you are responsible for your own.
29min: The power dynamic in ‘saving’ someone.
32min: Breaking up and moving into a new relationship.
34min: Infidelity, the pain, the grief and the healing.
39min: Finding self love through our suffering.
43min: Mark’s ‘yoghurt and granola breakup’ story, what breakups are here to teach us.
54min: Kelsey’s relationship with a well known public figure - the deeper the connection the deeper the triggers and fears.
56min: Finding safety when we are in fear from past triggers.
59min: Trust and friendships with the opposite sex, does your partner trust your opposite sex friends?
1.06min: Family enmeshment and intimate relationships, they don’t gel!
1.10min: Getting started in making connections when you’re single - building the relationship skill set .
Kelsey Grant - My entire life has been focused around relationships and how to get the love you want. As I’ve grown and shifted my ideas of what I wanted evolved as I did. The person I have grown into has given me access to learning, experimenting and through direct experience understand that which I was searching for in a relationship.
When I found it I thought that was it. I was done. That area of my life was complete. There was one catch though. I hadn’t yet learned how to really love myself. So the relationship ended. The universe works in mysteriously incredible ways. The breakup was exactly what I needed to actually for once look at my relationship to myself and understand I was at cause for all I was experiencing. I finally had to take a real look at my self confidence, self esteem, self worth and self love.
Through my journey of self love I was able to repair relationships of all kinds in my life, build my self esteem and self worth to levels they had never been before and ultimately begin to be the love I had be so intensely searching for in another. Once I was able to build this relationship with myself my love life flourished along with all the other areas of my life.
Brendon Marotta - The Shocking Truth about Circumcision
This week I was honoured to be joined by filmmaker Brendon Marotta. Brendon has just launched the ground-breaking documentary ‘American Circumcision’ on Netflix. We had an incredibly powerful, raw and real conversation on the issue of circumcision. We went deep on the trauma, pain and often undiscussed power that circumcision still holds in our society today. This is a topic that deserves so much more investigation and I am so passionate about bringing this topic to light. Don’t miss this episode.
1min: Why did you end up working on the topic of circumcision?
4min: Circumcision is a cure in search of a disease - a cure for masturbation.
7min: The data behind circumcision.
10min: Women as supportive of the issue.
12min: Trauma and circumcision.
19min: The history of circumcision.
25min: The power of cultural conditioning.
28min: How and why is the conversation on circumcision changing?
31min: Who are the gatekeepers and powerhouses behind the conversation?
41min: Circumcision the documentary.
42min: Was there a backlash to the documentary?
49min: Healing from circumcision and early childhood traumas.
56min: Healing from grief.
Brendon Marotta graduated from the University of the North Carolina School of the Arts in 2010 with a B.F.A. in film editing & sound, where he worked in every major role on a film set. In 2013, he completed a year long Meisner Acting program at the Waterfront Playhouse & Conservatory. In 2014, a feature he edited was selected to premiere at the Austin Film Festival and won the Narrative Feature Audience Award there. In 2017, he completed his first feature-length documentary as director, which won Best Documentary at the Lone Star Film festival. Brendon currently lives in Austin, TX.
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Matt Corker is a CEO, MBA and ’a magician of human experience’, this week he joins me to discuss all things leadership and business. We discuss Matt’s latest venture The Corker Co, and how he is crushing it in the business world, not only by connecting with people but also by connecting people to each other. There are so many synergies between how we communicate and manage relationships at work and with how we communicate and manage relationships at home - but too often we see them as separate worlds.
We jam on the difference between being authentic and putting on roles for different contexts. How real are you at work and how is it impacting yourself and those you love?
6min: People don’t quit their job they quit their manager, is this true?
8min: Fulfilment and work, being an entrepreneur vs employee, what’s the difference?
15min: Authenticity and the roles we play, how to we manage different relationships in different environments.
19min: Being real and communicating at work vs at home.
21min: Energy and motivation at work, how the time of day can affect how we behave.
32min: Toxic bosses, harmful management tactics and where do these stem come from?
36min: Formal company values, vision and mission vs the dynamic and culture in informal conversations.
41min: Talking about relationships, sexual relationships and sexual harassment at work.
48min: Working in “the office” and how our work space setups affect us.
52min: What is transformational really? Is it a buzzword or something more?
Stephanie Coontz - Exploring the Meaning of Marriage
In this episode Mark Groves is joined by Stephanie Coontz, researcher, academic and author of seven books on marriage and family. They explore topics ranging from traditions, gender roles, the evolution of relationships in history and the more recent impacts of technology on relationships.
Stephanie Coontz teaches history and family studies at The Evergreen State College in Olympia, WA and is Director of Research and Public Education at the Council on Contemporary Families. She has authored seven books on marriage and family life, including A Strange Stirring: ‘The Feminine Mystique’ and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s, The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap. Coontz is a frequent guest columnist for the New York Times and CNN.com. Selected articles and tv appearances can be found at www.stephaniecoontz.com
3m30sec: The history of marriage - what was it’s purpose?
8min: The difference between love, relationships and marriage, what is the role of coercion?
20m40sec: What is the history of monogamy and polygamy?
28min: The changing perspectives of being single, partnered, married and what is the role of gender here?
35min: The role of tradition and gender, how does it impact on the happiness of a relationship? How egalitarian are couples and how does this impact on happiness?
42min: Women having the courage to speak out and the #MeToo movement, how the times have changed.
45min: How has technology changed relationships and marriages?
In this podcast Mark Groves is joined by Dr. Jeremy Goldberg, writer, spoken word poet, marine biologist and PhD in social science. Mark and Jeremy discuss their personal evolutions as men, for Jeremy this has meant shifting from being an academic and PhD to becoming an artist. They also reflect upon the evolution of the modern man in today's world, what does it mean to be raised a boy today, what is school and society teaching boys, how do we break out of the stories and patterns and how we are all still on the journey home to ourselves.
3:15 - What is going on with men and #MeToo, why aren’t more men speaking up?
7:00 - Why do men struggle to speak up on emotions- are men emotionally castrated?
12:00 - The evolving man in society - what is the cultural shift toward opening?
21:00 - The modern education system - what is it teaching and not teaching for the modern life?
25:00 - Step out of the ‘story’ you’ve been taught about life, or get kicked out of it. How Jeremy shifted from being a PhD to artist.
31:00 - The fear and courage experienced when stepping into the unknown.
34:00 - The ‘big betrayal’ and can you betray yourself?
42:30 - We’re all on the journey still - anyone who says they have it all figured out is lying.
49:43 - Risk, resilience and living on your edge - learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
I’m so excited to introduce this week’s episode with my best friend and love – Kylie McBeath. Love, Service, and Wisdom. Those are the three words that Kylie lives by. Her greatest mission is to help more people unleash their greatness, and find truth and alignment in life through harnessing their best resource: their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. She is also a Certified Health Coach and Transformational Life Coach and she works to empower women to move through shame, release anger, and align with their most aligned + powerful selves.
During this convo Kylie not only shares her relationship journey but also her journey as an entrepreneur and some amazing insights for how to grow into your voice, truth, integrity, and most true self.
11:10 – Kylie’s journey back to herself
16:10 – Breaking through the limiting messages sent to women
24:50 – How fear creeps into relationships
34:00 – Stepping into vulnerability and honouring commitments
46:20 – Trigger points and getting our needs met
54:00 – Clean anger vs aggression
Jam with Kylie:
This episode was such an honour to record and is one I could go on and on about for hours! In it I talk with Terri Cole, the New York-based, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert and founder of Real Love Revolution & Boundary Bootcamp. Terri uses practical psychology, eastern mindfulness and harnesses the power of intention to create sustainable, positive behavioral change i.e. true transformation. Tune in as we talk about how childhood lessons about life form the blueprint of how we navigate our adult relationships around love. In addition to the highlights below are some amazing and practical tips on how to start understanding your own story so that you can heal old wounds and set new standards for what you actually want to create in your life.
11:55 – Your inherited love blueprint
15:10 – The difference between need and choice
18:00 – Why 5-step get love fast programs never work
21:45 – The 5 pillars of healing our relationship with love
31:15 – How to take back choice in how we love
38:00 – How to honour and heal triggering wounds
Connect with Terri:
The Real Love Revolution
Why does our relationship with money matter and how does it connect to our relationships with people? This episode is a must! In it, money boss Selina Gray and I unpack the connection between money, our pasts, stress, and of course, healing and freedom. Selina Gray is a CPA, CA & a money relationship expert with over 15 years of experience reinventing finance for individuals & businesses. Selina has helped thousands of people transform their relationship with money by focusing on emotions, money mindset & practical money optimization skills. She believes that everyone is capable of healing their money story and her approach cuts through all the bullshit beliefs that have been blocking you from healing your own. Tune in to get to the heart of what really matters in your life, and to make the change that lasts.
9:20 – uncovering your money memories
13:00 – Selina’s money mess
25:40 – how to be more excited about budgeting
32:30 – the importance of gratitude
34:00 – money archetypes
47:40 – healing money patterns in relationships
50:45 – how to start
She’s A Money Boss
This episode is the ultimate sandwich of inspiration, entertainment, and motivation. Branden has overcome obstacle after obstacle on his journey from poverty, to the ivy league, to Nike, to around the world, and back again. He takes us back to his days on the streets and talks about how he finally let go of the stories and scarcity of his past to take responsibility for the future he knew he wanted. Today, Branden Collinsworth is an internationally renowned human performance coach and works exclusively with several of the most impactful people in sports, music, and business. Branden has been endorsed and worked with brand giants, SUMMIT, Lululemon, Redbull, Dr.Oz, MTV and is currently a Master Trainer for Nike. Check out the highlights below, and get ready, set, go!
15:10 – why you should swear more
16:00 – Branden’s rock bottom turning point
20:35 – fight or flight
27:42 – the secret weapon of obsession
31:10 – success and worthiness
48:45 – the one thing you need to know to transform
54:00 – warrior retreats
Nike Training Club
Hands up if you learned as much about relationships in school as you did about pythagorean theorem. Ya, me neither. Meet Jayson Gaddis - relationship student & teacher, author, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School. He is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school– 'How to do intimate relationships'. In this episode, we talk about how important it is to treat and train our relationship skills like muscles. Jayson drops some serious knowledge about the benefits of couples therapy (as well as why you might be scared to go), as well as what unconscious investments we all carry that keep us at our same old painful status quo. Let the class begin!
8:10 – how we disappear in relationships and how to connect instead
13:30 – recognizing false vulnerability
17:30 – tips for having the therapy talk with your partner
23:00 – steps to opening up and transforming within relationships
27:55 – working through disagreements with your partner
31:50 – the window of presence and vulnerability
43:15 – healing after a break-up or divorce
The Smart Couple Podcast
Ben Goresky - The Myths of Masculinity and Addiction
What if you learned that everything you’ve been taught about what it means to be a man, was wrong? Tune into my recent conversation with addictions counselor and men’s coach Ben Goresky and learn how to reconnect to your masculinity and your partner with a new sense of compassion and curiosity. In this episode we talk about how to call ourselves and others on the bullshit stories that hold us back, the social norms that perpetuate addiction, why who you spend time with matters, and how you can get back in alignment with who you really are.
In this episode you’ll learn about:
Addiction myths (15:30)
Men and addictions: (34:20)
The connection solution for men and women (48:40)
The antidote to defensiveness (53:10)
The cycle of codependency (1:00:00)
You can find Ben through his group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men.
Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancee Sheleana Aiyana. He specializes in transpersonal psychology, shadow work, men’s work, and conscious relationship work. He lives a happy, healthy life in Vancouver, Canada.
Freedom From Addiction Program
Gabor Mate Russel Brand Podcast
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - Anne Katherine
Have you ever wondered about manifestation? Can we truly "make" something happen for us? In life and love, how can we get the things that we say we want? This week, I'm jamming with Lacy Phillips, a Manifestation Advisor specializing in unblocking beliefs of unworthiness and expanding into alignment with what one is calling in. We talk about how to develop a good relationship with yourself, with romantic partners, and with money. Find out how you can tap into your subconscious mind and how to grow your worth. This is one you don't want to miss!
In this episode you'll learn:
- The science behind manifestation (5:36)
- How to "get" the partner you deserve (12:20)
- The connection between love and money (49:05)
- And so much more!
Where can you find more of Lacy Phillips?
Podcast: Expanded Podcast
Human connection is such a powerful and necessary component of our lives. As a human connection specialist myself, I thought what better way to dive deep into this topic than to sit down with none other than Baya Voce? For the past decade, Baya has studied relationships and human connection, most recently giving one of the most-viewed TEDx talks of all time, titled "The Simple Cure for Loneliness," with more than 3.5 million views. Here we get a little taste of the nuggets from her TEDx talk, and we go deep into the work it takes to feel connected to ourselves and others.
In this episode, you’ll get answers to these questions:
Are breakups harder on men? (10:30)
What is betrayal? (22:35)
Do ‘mixed messages’ actually exist? (31:20)
And so much more!
Where can you find more of Baya Voce?
References and Recommendations:
Baya Voce TEDx Talk: The Simple Cure for Loneliness
Jayson Gaddis: The Smart Couple Podcast
Glennon Doyle: Oprah’s Soul Session
“Marriage is complicated.” “Once you’re married, sex goes out the window.” “It’s all downhill after the honeymoon phase.” Have you heard people say this to you? Have you actually uttered these words yourself? Vienna Pharaon and I sat down and talked about the stories we tell ourselves around getting married and how we can make the shift and define marriage in whatever way we want. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in New York City, where she runs her own practice. She is currently the number 1 Google search result when looking for couples counseling in NYC and she and I co-created a Relationships 101 workshop. Grab your pen and paper -- this episode is dynamite!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How honoring your vows are important, but honoring promises can help too (8:44)
How to hold an “Annual General Meeting” with your spouse or partner (13:00)
How to lower your negativity threshold (17:25)
And so much more!
Where can you find more of Vienna Pharaon?
@MindfulMFT on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter
Are you struggling in the dating world? Do you feel like finding love is the equivalent to working a fulltime job? In this episode, I talk to Amy Young all about dating in the modern world and her unpopular opinion that dating is actually fun and how it should never feel like an obligation. Amy is a life coach extraordinaire who previously worked as an actor and comedienne, bringing her silly and irreverent approach to empowering single women to understand themselves and set themselves up for relationship success. She is self-proclaimed “Captain Raise the Bar” and she and I jammed on all the goodness there is in today’s modern dating world when you look for it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The importance of raising your standards (8:08)
Can people have casual sex without getting hurt? (15:00)
Is it OK for a woman to need a man? (36:30)
And so much more!
References and Recommendations:
Viral Wedding Photo of pretend blowjob
Dr. Glover / "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
Katie Byron / "The Work"
Article: Why You Might Not Be Ready For The Evolved Man You Say You Want
Where can you find more of Amy Young?
Ivy Kwong - Navigating Relationships and Codependency
What is the difference between wanting to make your partner happy and being accommodating to the point of losing yourself? What is the recipe for self-love that allows you to deepen your connection in relationships? In this episode, I speak with Ivy Kwong, a licensed marriage & family therapist, speaker, and writer who specializes in self-love and connection to heal codependency.
Ivy also lets us in on an emotional intimacy exercise you can start putting into practice right away (55:05). Make a new nightly routine of checking in with yourself and sharing with your partner about the following areas: anger, pain, sadness, fear, shame, guilt, joy, and loneliness. Tune in to hear exactly how this exercise works and more tips and tricks you can use to help yourself (and your partner) grow.
In this episode, you’ll also learn:
The definition and different degrees of codependency (19:17)
The value of self-esteem and self-love (27:45)
What you need in order to sustain a relationship (48:05)
And so much more!
Where can you find more about Ivy Kwong?
Recommendations and references:
Article: “F*ck Yes or No” by Mark Manson
Book: “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” by Melody Beattie
What makes long-term relationships go the distance? I’m speaking with author and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who you might know as the “Relationship Architect” and author of the transformational book, “Loving Bravely.” We talk about what’s really needed to make a relationship work – spoiler alert — it goes way beyond good sexual chemistry (although that’s needed, too). Today, we bring you the tools that will get you started both as an individual and as a couple.
Alexandra is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students. In addition, she teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” If all of that wasn’t enough, Dr. Solomon is also a highly sought-after speaker and media commentator on relationship topics.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How messages we received as children shape how we show up in relationships today (5:50)
What makes relationships able to go the distance? (17:32)
Primary sexual desire vs. responsive desire – is sexual chemistry different for men and women? (21:35)
What does “sexy” mean for women? (29:30)
When there is sexual disconnection in a relationship, what can the couple do? (44:45)
And so much more!
Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Website - www.dralexandrasolomon.com/
Instagram - @dr.alexandra.solomon
Book - Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want
I sat down with Dallas Hartwig, co-founder of “The Whole30: The 30-Day Guide to Total Health and Food Freedom” and author of the New York Times Bestseller “It Starts With Food”. Our conversation begins at the intersection where health, love, and nutrition meet before moving onto the broader topic of self-identity, self-esteem, and self-fulfillment and how these are impacted (and transformed!) by the food we eat and the way we care for our bodies. Dallas offers some killer tips and advice on how to navigate change and growth, both in our emotional lives and within our physical bodies so that we can truly thrive.
In this episode I discuss my journey and why I the subject of relationships is so important. I talk about the misconceptions about love, my (our) struggles, healing wounds, and how we can best begin to learn to create connection and deepen our relationships with ourselves and others.
Join me on my journey as I seek to understand and discover what is it that make great couples great?
Why is it that some people seem to be able to keep love alive for a lifetime and others can't seem to even make it through a moment?
Why are we attracted to certain types of people who are bad for us?
I've discovered that the quality of our relationships ultimately determines the quality of our lives and our health.I've had so many amazing wonderful conversations with brilliant people about the subject to understand it myself and I wanted to share these conversations with you.
This is the Mark Groves Podcast