I remember when our kids were little and people would say, "Just wait until they are teenagers". It made me mad that they assumed my kids would grow into impossible teens, but it also cast a seed of doubt in my ability to parent teens.
Our culture encourages us to give into one extreme or the other when it comes to our teens: set super tight boundaries OR let them do whatever they want. As believers we KNOW that God has a better plan than that, but how do we zero in on what that looks like?
Today I am chatting with Connie Albers, author of Parenting Beyond the Rules. She shares some very deep wisdom and insight from her own experience parenting 5 kids (now adults) and working with teens for over 20 years.
She answers questions like: How do you parent teens in the age of social media? How do parents confront their fears when it comes to raising teens? How can parents be proactive in their teen's lives? If a parent feels like they've lost the relationship with their teens (or never had a great one), where do they go from here? AND MORE!
Where Our Homeschool Kids are Now - Sam (Podcast 68)
I've been interviewing each of our adult kids who were homeschooled from the beginning. They each share their experience and their perspective as adults on homeschooling! I encourage you to listen in to this one with your boys! It will be an encouragement!
This is the sixth and final in the series. I am talking with our son, Sam, who is 18 and just graduated less than two weeks ago. I always love hearing the unique perspective that each of our kids brings. It's really fun remembering their growing up years and seeing how God has worked in each one of their lives to prepare them for what He has for them. I also love that they love learning and continue to educate themselves as adults. This is the beauty of raising life long learners...if there are gaps (and there always are), our kids can totally work to fill those in when and if they need to.
Dealing with Anxiety: Living by Faith in a Toxic World (Podcast 67)
I've shared many experiences with you all including my struggles with anxiety. I think it's important to be transparent and real with each other. We need to know that we are not alone. Anxiety is real and it can come in all different forms for many different reasons. This is why it's crucial that we can get ahold of TRUTH and truth is found ONLY in God's Word and by His Spirit.
Today I'm sharing my most recent experiences with anxiety with the perspective that God is giving right along with it. I was strongly compelled to tell my story that your heart might be encouraged as well.
Matthew 11:28-30 (MSG Bible)
2 Corin. 10:4,5
Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart-Devotional for Moms (Amazon)
The Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course
Where Our Homeschool Kids are Now - Luke (Podcast 66)
You all told me that you wanted to hear from each of our adult kids who were homeschooled from the beginning and we are now on our FIFTH episode! I have had so much fun chatting it up with my kids either in person or online. Sometimes their answers surprise me, but they ARE honest and I love them for that!
Today I am talking with Luke who is 20 years old. He is currently working a job/internship and learning much about business and as you will hear in the podcast, many of the skills he brought into his job were learned during his growing up years...not through books, but through real-life experiences: playing with his siblings for hours on end.
Navigating the Post High School Years
Redefining Education: An Interview with Isaac Moorehouse
Contact info for Luke if you want help starting a podcast: firstname.lastname@example.org
There are a bazillion books and plentiful advice on parenting. Discipline is a very real part of parenting and its ramifications are far-reaching. For homeschooling families, discipline is a more frequent interaction with our kids than the average parent and can often begin to feel like an obstacle. It can quickly wear us down and cause us to become discouraged, but the lack of it can do the very same thing.
At the end of the day, for the believing parent, the only opinion on discipline that matters is God's. Today I'll be sharing some of my own experiences and looking at His Word for answers to questions like: is discipline really that big of a deal? Why do I hear people say "character trumps curriculum" when it comes to homeschooling? How do I get direction in how to train my kids? How do I not feel guilty for disciplining? How does discipline relate to me as the parent?
Verses mentioned in the podcast: Deut. 6:6-9, Pro. 29:15, 17, Prov. 22:6, Ephesians 6:1-4, Exodus 20:12, Hebrews 12:7-11, James 1
The Unhurried Homeschooler-a Simple, Mercifully Short Book on Homeschooling (Amazon)
Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart -31 Days in God's Word (Amazon)
Where Our Homeschool Kids are Now - Ben (Podcast 64)
Welcome to the 4th in my series talking with each of our adult kids! Today I'm chatting with Ben who is our fourth child and second son. Ben is almost 22, works at a Bible camp and is a volunteer firefighter.
Even though Ben was 9 before he was reading well, he is one of our most avid readers! He was given time and space to develop at his own pace and learn in ways that worked for him. We discuss this, reflect on his unhurried homeschooling experience and hear his perspective as an adult.
You'll love this guy's heart! He is one of the happiest people I know and a joy to be with!
Mentioned in the podcast (aff links): The Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course
The Unhurried Homeschooler
Unhurried Grace for Mom's Heart
Where Our Homeschool Kids are Now - Jake (Podcast 63)
In today's podcast, I am talking with our oldest son, Jake. He is 24, started college at 16 (dual enrollment) and graduated at 21. He is in his 3rd year working as a software engineer. Having gone to college at a young age and straight out of homeschooling, he shares an interesting perspective.
At age 12, Jake discovered what he was passionate about and the career he wanted to pursue, but much of what he needed, he had to work hard for. It's one of the many reasons he is a motivated problem solver which has also given him an edge over many of his peers.
I often say that he was one of the kids I "schooled" the least. He and his siblings were and are self-directed/independent/life-long learners, partly because it's how they are wired and partly because we were a large family. But it worked for us.
What it really comes down to (and always does) is listening to how we believe God is telling us to homeschool and raise our kids and being faithful to walk in it...even if it looks different than anyone else.
Where Our Homeschool Kids Are Now - Jenna (Podcast 62)
In today's podcast I am talking with Jenna, our 2nd daughter (of our 8 homeschooled kids) about her homeschooling experience and where she is today. As a wife and mom of two littles, she shares the unique perspective of having been homeschooled from the beginning and now heading into the homeschooling years with her own children.
I'm having fun interviewing each of our adult kids per your request! Listen in next week when I chat with our oldest son!
Check out: The Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course (https://theunhurriedhomeschooler.thinkific.com/)
The Unhurried Homeschooler: my simple, mercifully short book on homeschooling (Amazon)
Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart: a devotional for homeschooling moms (Amazon)
The Gift of Dyslexia with Sarah Brown (Podcast 61)
A dyslexia diagnosis can feel overwhelming, especially for the homeschool mom, but take heart! Dyslexia (or any diagnosis for that matter) doesn't have to negatively define you, your child or your homeschooling! Today I am talking with Sarah Brown, homeschooling mom of 15 (yes, you heard me right), several of whom have dyslexia and you will be SO encouraged!
I know many of you want to take a more unhurried approach when it comes to homeschooling and never is this approach more beneficial than when your child has learning struggles!
Sarah and I recorded this podcast over the internet via computer and phone from North Carolina to Hawaii, SO it's not the best recording, BUT I believe the content is incredibly valuable and worth publishing in spite of the obstacles!
Please visit this post on my website to sign up for the great giveaways offered in this podcast! (durendawilson.com)
Where Our Homeschool Kids Are Now (Podcast 60) - Brittney
I asked you all if you would like me to interview each of our grown kids to talk with them about their homeschool experience and their perspective as adults. The response was overwhelming, so today is the first of several. I am talking with our daughter Brittney who is 28, pregnant with her fourth and heading into the homeschooling years with her own kids now!
I was NOT a perfect mom or homeschooling mom by any stretch of the imagination, but I believed God gave me these kids and was challenged to trust His heart toward me and toward my kids. Not one single day went the way I planned, but His grace oozed throughout all of our homeschooling years as I tried to facilitate what God was orchestrating. In other words, my main job was to listen and do what God was calling me to do whether someone else was doing it or not AND to walk in the freedom that I didn't have to do what other's were doing.
You've got this because He's got YOU.
Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp and The Unhurried Homeschooler (find them both on Amazon)
Lies Parents Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free: Part 2 (Podcast 59)
"You aren't qualified to teach your children. Only a professional can do that"
Today I'm sharing the lie that every homeschooling parent is constantly facing and confronting it with the TRUTH of God's heart toward education and most importantly, His heart toward us as homeschooling parents.
Our daughter once said, "Common sense isn't so common anymore". She was right. It's time for we as parents to return to the wisdom found in God's word and His gift of common sense. With that in mind, I'm also addressing a hot topic and apply some common sense to it as an example. I usually avoid controversial topics, but the reality is that the decisions we used to be able to freely make as parents have become charged with agendas, hate, and contempt for opposing views.
Because of this I found myself strongly compelled to use an example to encourage you as parents to think for yourselves and do NOT do ANYTHING from a place a fear. Instead, find your footing on the strong rock of Jesus and HIS leading in you and your family's lives.
Matthew 11:38-40 (MSG)
Check out my books on Amazon: The Unhurried Homeschooler, a simple, mercifully short book on homeschooling and Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart-devotional for moms
Lies Parents Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free: Part 1 (Podcast 58)
We are engaged in a battle for our children and our right as parents to determine what is best for them. We are constantly being told in blatant and more subtle ways that we are inadequate for the job and encouraged to abdicate those decisions to those who “know better” than we do.
This is nothing short of a frontal attack on God's good and gracious plan for families. God has given US these children to raise and He will equip US to do just that.
Verses on wisdom:
1 Corin. 1:25
1 Corinthians 1:30
Verses on Parenting:
1 Peter 5:23
2 Tim. 3:14-16
Please check out my books: The Unhurried Homeschooler and Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart on Amazon!
The 3 Most Important Things I've Learned in 24 Years of Homeschooling (Podcast 57)
There's a lot to be said for hindsight. Our 6th will be graduating in June. The homeschooling finish line is in sight and the process has taught me so much, but in this podcast, I am sharing what I believe to be the 3 most important things that I've learned over the last two decades.
From early on in our journey I remember hearing things that I would often "tuck in my hat", realizing that these were nuggets of truth that I may need later on. As the years unfolded, there were defining moments in our homeschooling journey where I recognized a truth that I also tucked away. I am sharing many of these with you today, praying that you will find your homeschool mom heart filled up to overflowing!
The Unhurried Homeschooler(aff link)
Facebook: Durenda Wilson
Podcast: Homeschooling: Dealing with Outside Pressure
Podcast: Redefining Education
My online mentoring course for moms: The Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course
What should you do when it seems like your husband isn’t taking the spiritual leadership in your family? How can a husband encourage his wife in homeschooling the kids?
In this podcast episode, my husband and I are tackling these and several other questions from our listeners. We’ve been married for almost 30 years and homeschooling for over 23 years.
Other Podcasts with my husband
Raising a Family of Ten on One Income
Children: A Blessing Not a Burden
Check out my book, The Unhurried Homeschooler
Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course
I will be speaking at these conferences
FPEA-May 23, 24 2019 Orlando Florida
NCHE-May 31, June 1 Winston-Salem, NC
Is There Hope For My Kids In A World That Seems To Be Falling Apart (Podcast 55)
News, online media, newspapers and a constant stream of information can put us on edge as people, but especially as moms. There are things happening that we never imagined would be happening and they are happening faster than ever. We can't help but wonder what kind of world our kids will be growing into.
Today I want to share HOPE with you...hope that we have as believers and hope that our children have for their futures.
Please listen in and BE ENCOURAGED!
Scriptures shared in the podcast:
2 Timothy 3:1-5
2 Timothy 1:8-11
Homeschooling Through a Crisis (Podcast: Found here on SoundCloud or on my blog)
PLEASE READ BEFORE YOU LISTEN TO THE PODCAST!
In this podcast, I talk a lot about how to navigate understanding your kids through hormone changes. BUT I want to emphasize that as we try to empathize and work through these things with them, that we make sure that they speak to and treat us respectfully. We want them to have a voice, but never at the cost of hurting the people around them. This includes friends and siblings. Hitting the "pause" button is one of the best ways to do that.
My husband and I have had teens in the house for 15 years. We aren't perfect at it, but we've learned a lot and I'm sharing much of that right here on this podcast!
The Unhurried Homeschooler
Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart
Homeschooling And International Adoption With Sarah Brown (Podcast 53)
I like to focus on podcast topics that are important to YOU! Recently I had a mom ask me to do a podcast on international adoption. I don't really have much experience with that, but I have a friend who does! Sarah has 10 biological children and 5 children adopted from Ukraine. In today's podcast, we talk about how God's plan unfolded in Sarah's family's life, how God knit their family together through adoption and what the adjustment has been like. (The newly adopted children are 7, 9, 11, 12 and 16)
Even if you are not planning to adopt, maybe you know someone who is. Learn more about what this process feels like so you can be effective support for those who are adopting! (More info/resources on this post at my website:durendawilson.com/international-ad…rown-podcast-53/)
When Character Training Feels Like An Obstacle (Podcast 52)
We always say that character comes before the curriculum, but that can be easier said than done. In the day to day, it can be a real struggle to actually lay down the math or reading to deal with the character issues in our kids. But what if we saw character training for what it REALLY is? In today's podcast, I will be sharing a big picture perspective with a biblical foundation to encourage you to take the time to reach the hearts of your children!
One thing I forgot to mention in the podcast is that as our kids exhibit behavior that indicates a need for character training, it's so important to find our first (especially if they are younger) if there is a need that isn't being met: are they hungry, thirsty, tired? Might we be over scheduling our family life, schooling or activities? This isn't about giving our kids excuses for misbehaving, but about being responsible as parents to be fair and just in our actions.
theunhurriedhomeschooler.thinkific.com/ (Mentoring Course)
The Unhurried Homeschooler on Amazon
Florida Parent Educators Association-Homeschool Convention May 23-25, 2019
Scriptures mentioned in the podcast:
Luke 6:39, 40
2 Corin. 10:3-5
The Benefits Of A More Natural Approach To Learning (Podcast 51)
Many of us are homeschooling because we believe it's a much better choice for our children, but we can easily get caught up in becoming results driven in our approach.
Today I am talking to Ashley Wiggers who is a homeschool graduate and now a mom herself. We are having a great conversation about what can be best described as "homeschooling from the heart". It's homeschooling from our heart as moms and tuning into our children's hearts so that we can create a learning environment that best fits our families!Ashley Wiggers grew up in the early days of the homeschooling movement. She was taught by her late mother, Debbie Strayer, who was an educator, speaker and the author of numerous homeschooling materials (including Learning Language Arts Through Literature and Trail Guide to Learning). It was through Debbie’s encouragement and love that Ashley learned the value of being homeschooled. Currently, Ashley is the Editor-in-Chief of Homeschooling Today magazine, Public Relations Director for Geography Matters and the author of the Profiles from History series. Ashley makes her home in Somerset, KY, with her loving husband, son and one on the way. (Resources mentioned in the podcast can be found at durendawilson.com)
Overcoming Writing Struggles With Fred Lybrand (Podcast 50)
I don't think there's a homeschool parent out there who would say that getting their kids to enjoy writing is easy.
Today I am talking with Dr. Fred Lybrand who has been teaching writing for well over two decades (along with countless other pursuits). He is ALSO a homeschool dad of 5 grown kids and has a unique and sensible approach to helping our kids with writing. He shares several basic principles in this podcast that will make you shake your head and say, "Why didn't I think of that? It makes so much more sense now!" (Hint: simpler really is better!)
If you are looking for a writing resource, this may just be a good fit for you. I invite you to listen and find out!(durendawilson.com)
Homeschooling: There's Freedom in Simplicity (Podcast 48)
Most homeschooling families are not actually enjoying homeschooling. Parents AND kids are feeling all kind of unnecessary pressure and unreasonable expectations. This is NOT what homeschooling was meant to be and we FEEL that deep down inside. BUT what will it take to get that peace we long for and to enjoy our children again?
Today I'm having a conversation with Karen over at Simply Living for Him. We share our stories of how simplifying our homeschooling was a game changer.
This is something I teach moms how to do in my online course, The Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course. If simplifying resonates with your mom heart, please go check it out! Enrollment is open for a limited time. (Links to connect with Karen and my online course found in the notes on this podcast at durendawilson.com)
Homeschooling: Dealing With Outside Pressure (Podcast 47)
As homeschooling moms, we've chosen to educate our kids in what most would consider an "unconventional way".
We've made this decision carefully and prayerfully and bear the daily responsibility of our choice, which can feel weighty in and of itself. But often, on top of that, there are outside pressures that bear down on us and can drain the life right out of us AND our homeschool journey.
I've been receiving an unusual amount of messages and emails from moms who are feeling burdened by two main pressures: government regulations/state requirements and push back from friends and family. Because of that, I feel like God wanted me to bring encouragement in those specific areas.
Praying that this podcast will lift any unnecessary burdens and bring joy back into this very special calling!durendawilson.com
I am so thrilled to have Dan Marcone (M.A., LMHC and Clinical Supervisor for Seasons Counseling) back on the podcast!
Today Dan is sharing about the importance and how to's of encouraging a growth mindset in our kids! A growth mindset is a mental attitude that determines how we interpret and respond to things like challenges, obstacles, effort, criticism and the success of others. Do we have failure resistance? Why is it SO important to encourage a growth mindset in our kids AND ourselves?
We are feeling creatures that think, not thinking creatures that feel, so we MUST address our kids' emotional needs FIRST. Listen in on the whys and hows of that in today's podcast! (Resources listed in the post at durendawilson.com)
Essentials In Early Education With Cheryl Bastian (Podcast 45)
We all want our kids to have a great start to their education, but what does that REALLY look like?Cheryl Bastian is a homeschooling mom to eight kids ages 3-29 and has worked in the early education field for many, many years. She is a wealth of information and encouragement!We will be talking about what's really important for early education along with simple ways to recognize common potential learning problems. (Resources mentioned are listed on this post at durendawilson.com)
Parenting With Confidence In A World Gone Mad (Podcast 44)
As parents, it can be easy to become disoriented in our parenting...even more so for homeschooling parents! We are with our kids 24/7 and in the daily busyness of trying to educate our children, we can forget that we are called FIRST to make disciples. But what does that look like? What tools do we need to orient our families toward that?
We are called as Christian parents to hold out the Gospel to our children. What does that look like? What are the most important things to remember as we disciple our kids? What does it mean to bring up our children in the "training and instruction of the Lord"? BECAUSE we spend so much time with our kids, we have a unique, God-given, opportunity to do just that! Listen in to hear some simple principles from God's Word that will help you parent with confidence! (Free audiobook offer listed on the notes to this podcast at durendawilson.com)
Homeschooling Preparing Our Kids For The Job Market (Podcast 43)
Higher education is changing and today we are talking about why homeschooling is truly the BEST way to prepare our kids for what's ahead.
My guest today is Lolita, a marketing associate at Praxis, an apprenticeship program that helps young people launch their careers without college. We are talking about project-based learning and why it can be such a great place to homeschool from.
Lolita is a huge fan of homeschooling and was homeschooled herself! She is passionate about encouraging homeschooling parents because she believes homeschooling is not just another education alternative, but an optimal choice when it comes to truly preparing our kids for the future.(Resources mentioned in the podcast can be found at durendawilson.com)
Many of us long for an older mom to help us navigate motherhood, homeschooling, etc. For months I've been collecting questions that YOU have wanted answers to! We talk about chores, homeschooling, mom guilt (how does it affect our kids), busyness, how our married kids met their spouses and more! There were so many questions, I had to divide this into two podcasts! This is the second part!
I also invited our oldest daughter, Brittney to join me. I love that she can give her perspective as both a mom of littles AND the oldest child of a large homeschooling family!
Our prayer is that God will speak to your heart through this question and answer time and that you would hear HIS voice above all others! (Resource links in podcast notes at durendawilson.com
Encouragement For Your Home School Mom Heart (Podcast 41)
Oh, how we need encouragement along the way...as moms, as homeschool moms! The best way I know to encourage moms is to share what God is doing in my own life. It's been a lot...at times overwhelming, but NOTHING good comes easy, right? There's a lot of goodness in this podcast that I'd love for you to hear!
Please listen in and be encouraged!
Resources mentioned in the podcast:
Please check out The Unhurried Homeschooler Mentoring Course @ theunhurriedhomeschooler.thinkific.com
Link to song mentioned can be found at durendawilson.com in the notes from this podcast post!
Many of us long for an older mom to help us navigate motherhood, homeschooling, etc. For months I've been collecting questions that YOU have wanted answers to! We talk about chores, homeschooling, mom guilt, busyness and more. There were so many questions, I had to divide this into two podcasts!
I also invited our oldest daughter, Brittney to join me. I love that she can give her perspective as both a mom of littles AND the oldest child of a large homeschooling family!
Our prayer is that God will speak to your heart through this question and answer time and that you would hear HIS voice above all others!(For the list of resources mentioned in the podcast, go to this podcast on durendawilson.com)
Of all the questions I receive, the topic of chores is on the top of the list! Moms and kids are frustrated, angry, and resentful when it comes to this issue and today I'm going to tackle it from top to bottom!
Having 8 kids in 12 years can bring a mom to her knees and her home into disarray, but God taught our kids (and me) SO much through working together.
The benefits of having our kids do chores are countless! I'll talk about many of them in this podcast as well as how we scheduled them. More than anything, I want you to be encouraged that investing in this area is not only lightens our loads as moms but is an essential part of our kids' education! (For resources mentioned in the podcast, see the notes for this episode at durendawilson.com)
Read Aloud Family With Sarah MacKenzie (Podcast 38)
Many of you may know Sarah Mackenzie from Read Aloud Revival! Sarah and I have been friends for a few years and I LOVE her! She is the REAL DEAL! You may be familiar with her first book, Teaching From Rest. It's been a huge encouragement for homeschool moms everywhere!
Sarah recently published Read Aloud Family and it's been a huge bestseller! I believe it's because Sarah articulates what is already in the heart of moms everywhere. We WANT to connect with our kids. We WANT meaningful relationships with them, but we are overloaded with information on HOW to do that.
In today's podcast, we are going to talk about one of the simplest ways to begin to connect and build relationships with our kids: reading out loud to them. Many of us can feel disillusioned by the idea that we have to spend copious amounts of time reading to our kids in order for it to count, but Sarah debunks that myth! She shares tips to help make this time happen and we talk about the countless and sometimes surprising blessings of making reading out loud a priority!DON'T FORGET TO LEAVE A COMMENT ON THIS POST ON MY BLOG FOR A CHANCE TO WIN A FREE COPY OF READ ALOUD FAMILY(To find resources mentioned in the podcast, please go to the show notes at durendawilson.com)
The Mystery Of History With Linda Hobar (Podcast 37)
After homeschooling for over 23 years, I can count on one hand the curricula that I have used over and over again and recommend to moms all the time. The Mystery of History is one of those and there are many reasons as I share in this podcast.
If you are wondering about the importance of history, how it relates to our faith and how it can be used as a springboard for many of the most important conversations you will have with your kids, then you will enjoy today's podcast!
Today Linda Hobar (author of The Mystery of History) joins me to tell a little bit more about her background as a homeschool mom and how she ended up writing a world history series!(You can find resources mentioned in the podcast and information about the giveaway at durendawilson.com)
Encouragement For The Anxious, Weary Mom (Podcast 36)
Anxiety is something we all deal with at one point or another. For some us, it's literally an ongoing battle. There are no easy answers, but, as Believers, we can be assured that God WILL take care of us in the midst of whatever is making us anxious.Today's podcast comes from literally weeks and weeks of seeking God's face in the midst of anxiety. Whenever I find myself in places that I cannot get away from, places that seem to compound my feelings of anxiety, but that God is clearly having me walk through, I have to ask Him, "What is it that I can only see or hear in THIS particular place?"Our trials are not haphazardly placed in front of us. God is sovereign over our lives and nothing is outside His scope of control and care for us. He doesn't waste anything hard that He asks us to walk through.If you are feeling anxious and weary, join me in looking to the ONLY One who can bring clarity and wisdom. Know that you are not alone and that you ARE loved!A friend of mine challenged me awhile back with this:"When by His grace we break through the shame and boldly unveil our weaknesses, grace rushes in and shows God's power to those around us. "-Kimm CrandallMay you be encouraged and may you know God's power and presence as you listen.(Resources mentioned in the podcast are available at durendawilson.com)
The Development Stages Of Kids And Their Learning With Dan Marcone (Podcast 35)
We all go into parenting with some amount of baggage and we hope our kids will have less of it than we did, but what does that even look like? We know what NOT to do, but what DO we do? We love our kids, but how to we nurture and raise them to be emotionally healthy adults? And if we are homeschooling, how do we address obstacles that inevitably show up along the way?
I went into motherhood and homeschooling with a very basic understanding of child development and even that little bit of information has proven to be very helpful over my 27 years as a mom. I've learned even more as we have homeschooled our children for the last 23 years.
Today, Dan Marcone, M.A., LMHC, is sharing some very, very important information about the development stages of kids and how it relates to their learning. You will want to grab a pen and paper and take notes because this podcast is chock FULL of great information!(Resources mentioned in the podcast available at durendawilson.com)
Who hasn't had a kid who struggles with whining, lying, complaining, being disrespectful, etc? Join me as I talk with Ginger Hubbard, author of "Don't Make Me Count to Three", "Wise Words for Moms", and her new release (April 24th), "I Can't Believe You Just Said That!", Ginger will share PRACTICAL ways we can help our kids tame their tongues. We want to go beyond just getting our kids to behave. As Believers, we want to reach the HEARTS of our children and Ginger shares some simple, yet effective tools!
Navigating The Post High School Years (Podcast 32)
Not every young person knows what they want to do when they graduate from high school. In fact, those that do are the exception, not the rule. However, there is SO much pressure for our young people to make decisions they are simply not ready to make. College is becoming less and less relevant and our kids are finding themselves floundering. Because of this pressure, many students go through the motions of continuing education without owning what they are doing and others just become paralyzed and do nothing.
Today I am talking with our 19-year-old son, Luke, as we share our experience of navigating the post-high school years. Luke is our 5th born, 3rd son) and, as you will learn from our conversation, has learned that this journey looks different for every family AND for every child. You will be encouraged as we talk about what it looks like to walk through these post-high school years TOGETHER!
Redefining Education; An Interview With Isaac Morehouse (Podcast 31)
Did you know that the model for the public school system was created during the Industrial Revolution, essentially preparing students to be factory workers? Our kids need something drastically different to prepare them to succeed in the 21st century. As homeschoolers, we have that opportunity! But what this means is that we need to be willing to think outside the box.
Today I am talking with Isaac Morehouse, founder, and CEO of Praxis, a highly successful apprenticeship program that can't keep up with the demand for its graduates. Isaac was homeschooled and shares how homeschooling was an incredible asset to him (probably not in the ways you think). He is on the front lines and well connected to what companies are looking for in employees, so he speaks to the opportunities we have as homeschoolers to truly prepare our kids for the future. I guarantee this podcast will be the biggest encouragement you've heard in a long time! (For links and books mentioned, go to durendawilson.com)
Whether you’ve got kids in high school or you are fact-gathering for the upcoming high school years, you will love the experience and wisdom that Cheryl shares in this podcast on creating transcripts for your high schoolers!Cheryl is a mom to 8 kids ages 28 down to almost 3. She has graduated 3 so far. She brings with her a multitude of years in education, both before children and as a homeschooling mom.This podcast might seem a little overwhelming to some, so listen with discernment as not everything mentioned may be a good fit for you!(As you are listening, please make note of any more questions you might have. We would be happy to do another podcast to answer those, if need be!)
Age Of Opportunity: Homeschooling Middle and High Schoolers (Podcast 29)
"Just you wait until they're teenagers!". I heard this a lot when we had several little ones. I hated it. My friend used to call these people the "just you waits." I couldn't help but think that God had something better for our kids and our relationships with them. The teen years hold challenges, but I was right, these years can be both productive and enjoyable!
As homeschooling moms, it's easy to freak out as we prepare our kids for high school and question whether or not we can actually pull of homeschooling all the way through high school. Today I talk with my friend, Cheryl Bastian, also a mom of eight (ages 2-29) who worked in education before she had children and has been homeschooling for well over two decades.
You're going to be both encouraged and equipped through this conversation as we talk about how important perspective is in navigating these very precious years with our kids! (For more, go to my website: durendawilson.com)
Learning Lifestyle Revival with Holly Giles (Podcast 28)
Today Holly Giles joins me as we talk about what it looks like to homeschool from where you are and to follow your children's interests. You will love Holly's encouraging stories as she shares how God led her family to homeschool and how her children are thriving through a lifestyle of learning!
Holly is a wife, mother, and storyteller. She has a passion for helping families discover their own learning style and use it to nurture their children's God-given gifts. The importance of a strong family relationship is woven in each message. Holly gleans from her own life with boys, embracing the outdoors and navigating the challenges of a special needs child, to tell stories, woven with humor, that are sure to encourage the weariest of souls. Nature is her springboard to inspire you to a more abundant life at home. Holly is the author of Blaze New Trails, creator of the Learning Lifestyle Revival, and opens her home and life to you at thegilesfrontier.com. (More info on durendawilson.com)
Homeschooling has become not only a viable educational option, but often a preferred one, but what is it about homeschooling that actually makes it work? What are the foundational aspects that give our children the advantage of becoming life long learners? After homeschooling for over 22 years (5 graduated and 3 still school age), I can tell you that it's not what you might think!
In this podcast, I share a perspective that I hope will both inspire you and be the encouragement you need to press forward in your homeschooling journey. (For more, please go to my blog durendawilson.com)
We are busy trying to raise decent human beings and that is a very REAL and very influential role. At the same time, we live in a world that desperately needs hope. HOW can we, as moms, help facilitate that?
The enemy's tactics are clever. If he can keep our focus somewhere else, we will miss countless opportunities. But what if we adjusted our lens and became very focused on what REALLY matters?
PLEASE listen in as I share something that I believe God is calling every believing mom to grasp and understand because He wants to use us to rock the world.(For more, please go to durendawilson.com)
So many times we refer to ourselves as "just moms", but God created motherhood and considers it a place of honor. The word honor means distinction, recognition, privilege, glory, prestige, merit, importance, notability, respect, esteem, approbation.
We need to understand that being a mom is an honor. It is a privilege. The culture shouts otherwise, but God honors moms. He loves them. He leads them gently (Isaiah 40:11).
Motherhood isn't a diversion from the important work...it IS the important work.
Between the two of us, my friend Sherri and I have 12 kids, over 50 years of motherhood and over 40 years of homeschooling experience. Listen in while we talk about the Urgency of Motherhood!(About halfway through there is a glitch in the recording. Hang in there for a little bit...we do come back!)
Check out my books on Amazon...The Unhurried Homeschooler and Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart!More encouragement on my blog...durendawilson.com
Raising A Family Of 10 On One Modest Income (Podcast 24)
Most would say it can't be done, but with God all things are possible.
Today Darryl and I share the story of how we raised a family of 10 (yes, we count the parents) and recently paid cash for our home and a second small home that generates income as an Airbnb.
We hope that as we share our story and some money saving tips, that you will be encouraged!
My husband and I are often asked how in the WORLD we ended up with EIGHT kids!In today's podcast, my husband joins me in telling the story of how we went from wanting 2 kids to having 8!It's a God story for sure, especially when you consider we had ALL of our children via C-section!
My new devotional written just for moms launched yesterday! I am sharing one of the devotions from the book here today to give you a taste of Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart!This devotional was written from many, many years in God's Word with very practical application for moms and homeschool moms! This 31-day devotional could be used several times throughout the year.You can find the book on Amazon for a promotional price of $6.99 until the end of January. (Regular price as of February 1 is $8.99)That means you can receive both The Unhurried Homeschooler AND Unhurried Grace for just $12.98 total (both on Amazon).
Why Waiting On God Is Never A Waste Of Time (Podcast 21)
Are you waiting on God for any area of your life...something in your marriage, with your kids, friends? Maybe it's a job or a move? We are typically not very good at waiting, but often God calls us to do just that. It can be frustrating and discouraging. It can even take a toll on our faith. So why in the world would God require us to do it? Is it just a waste of time? What good might He have in all of it? (all references in the podcast are listed on my blog(durendawilson.com) associated with this episode)
Overwhelmed. Every mom experiences it. Most of us experience it on a daily basis. It can feel pretty gross. It can steal our joy. It can rob our peace. It seems to just be a part of life. As Believing moms, we know deep down inside that God may have something better for us in all of it, but what could that possibly be? Listen in and be encouraged!
My friend Terrie and her family were on their way home from a family trip. A quick stop at the rest area would prove to be life-changing. Terrie's husband, Greg, was shot in the back and ultimately paralyzed from the waist down. I had the opportunity to sit down with Terrie and have her share the story from that night and how she experienced God in the midst of a crisis.When we recorded this, Terrie and Greg were just days away from testifying in the trial that would hopefully bring one of the perpetrators to justice. As of today, they are still sitting through court proceedings, so prayers would be much appreciated. (Scriptures and links to Terrie's website and books are on associated post at my blog, durendawilson.com)
Navigating Technology And Screen Time With Our Kids (Podcast 18)
Navigating technology and screen time with our kids is one of our biggest challenges as parents. We are moving into what is called the "Smart Technology" age and quite frankly, it's intimidating! Technology and screen time have been my arch nemesis for years. I've prayed through and done the best I can, but I think we all could use some clarification, direction, and a plan!
Help is on the way!
Today I am talking with Leah Nieman who has been speaking for the past 8 years to parents, homeschooling groups, and teens about technology, social media, and parenting. She is going to share with us some ideas on how we can raise kids with a healthy perspective of technology and social media. I think you will be inspired and encouraged!(All resources mentioned are the blog post associated with this episode...durendawilson.com)
Homeschooling Boys: How to Encourage Ownership (Podcast 17)
One of the keys in homeschooling boys is moving them from a place of dependency to a place of ownership. If our boys OWN what they are doing, we won't be needing to push or cajole. In fact, it may be all we can do to keep up with them! The conquering spirit of boys is quite the sight to behold and it's an exciting, powerful thing to be a part of!
What exactly is ownership? Tim Elmore describes it like this:
Ownership is the antithesis of entitlement.
It’s the idea that my life is my own, which entails both freedom and responsibility:
…For the decisions I make.
…For the challenges I face.
…For the money I spend or save.
…For the people I choose to hang around.
…For the future I prepare for.
…For the mistakes I make.
Today I'm sharing ways we can encourage our boys to OWN both their life and their education. College isn't for everyone and is, in fact, becoming less and less relevant. I'm sharing some great alternatives. These suggestions aren't an exhaustive list, but they will hopefully give you hope and a vision for something that may be a better fit for your boys! (There are links to the resources I share in the podcast on this post at my blog)
Homeschooling - What Our Boys Really Need Pt.2 (Podcast 16)
In this podcast, I'm talking more about our boys and what they really need! We will be focusing specifically on Jr.High/High School ages. There are lots of practical ideas, but more than anything, I want you, as moms, to be encouraged.
They say the mom's heart is the child's classroom and this is why I often spend time speaking to that. If your hearts are thriving, your children and your homeschooling will be thriving as well! God's principles are timeless and hold true across the board, but the method to walk in obedience to those principles can vary from family to family.
Please listen in, I think you are going find that God has, in fact, been speaking to your heart about your boys. My prayer is that this podcast will give help give you the courage to move forward in faith for their hearts and yours! (Resources mentioned in the podcast are listed on the post on my blog durendawilson.com)
Homeschooling Boys: What They Really Need Pt. 1 (Podcast 15)
Today I'm talking about homeschooling boys: what they really need, understanding some of the ways that they tend to be wired and specifically what we have done as we homeschooled our 5 boys who are now 22, 20, 19, 17, and 13.
Raising boys can be challenging. Homeschooling them can bring the best mom/teacher to her knees (or tears), but OH the joy of boys! I love our boys to the moon and back, but part of being able to enjoy our homeschooling journey required me to give up some of my ideal thoughts about what it was supposed to look like. I had to decide whether I was going to insist that they measure up to what I felt like and now know are ridiculous and unnatural expectations or if I was going to encourage them to be everything that GOD made them to be! It was one of the best decisions I ever made (more than once over the years) and I would do it all over again!(All sources mentioned are on my blog at durendawilson.com)
Our culture wants to blur the line between boys and girls, but just about any mom can tell you that there IS a difference. There are sliding scales of differences, but still, differences.
Instead of denying these unique qualities, it's important to recognize and APPRECIATE them. We have a Creator who is intentional and very innovative in the ways that He knit us together. As moms, we have an opportunity to not only help direct the amazing qualities that boys possess, but also to help them find confidence in who God has called them to be.
Not one of us is in the EXACT same situation as someone else. We live in certain cultures, sub cultures, have different backgrounds, different children, are in different seasons of life, and so much more! It makes sense that each our homeschooling journeys would have a different flavor as well!In this podcast, our grown daughters and I will be talking about homeschooling confidently from WHERE YOU ARE! God has very intentionally placed each of us in our specific circumstances and He has a plan and a purpose in how that affects our homeschooling experience!
The girls and I will share what our homeschooling looked like because of our specific set of boundaries.You'll get my perspective AND theirs because I believe it's important for you to see how our imperfect homeschooling experience was perfect for US...and yours will be too!Let your friends know about it so they can listen as well and get ready to find FREEDOM in your homeschooling!(Song at the end: Casting Crowns, Here's My Heart Lord)
This week's podcast is a must listen! I'm talking to my friend, Yvette! She and her husband and girls are traveling the country filming a documentary on homeschooling that will help debunk the myths that often surround what we are doing at home with our kids! It will be a great encouragement to those who already homeschool, show those who are considering it, just how doable it is AND reveal to the naysayers what a legitimate option it really is!
I believe this film will transform our culture's view of homeschooling and encourage so many more Christian families to step out in faith and begin their homeschooling journey as well. It will also be very helpful for homeschooling families to pass on to the people in their lives who give them grief over their choice to home educate. I like to call it "educating the non-home educator"! (It's also a great reminder of why we are homeschooling!)
We never know what God is going to call us or our children to, but as we walk our faith out before our kids, we show them what kind of God we serve.
As moms, we want to fix things. We want to make everything okay and it HURTS when we can’t.But the truth is that life is messy and it’s hard and even though we want to spare our children of its pains, we would be doing them a disfavor.The very best thing (even though it can be SO hard) is to walk through the pain WITH them, looking and pointing out where we see God’s presence and pointing them back to the cross.
Our youngest son was born with a major heart defect and spent the first 2 months of his life in the hospital. A little over 4 years ago, our first grandson went to be with Jesus unexpectedly, just hours before birth. As our family walked through these and other crisis together, we were NEVER more glad that we homeschooled.
We had the opportunity to point our kids back to God and to where we saw His presence over and over again. But this took time, patience and understanding...something we could give them because we homeschooled. These experiences impacted them for a lifetime...more than that, for eternity.
In this week's podcast, I share what it looks like to homeschool through a crisis and how God can use what feels really yucky to do His deepest and greatest work in our hearts and the hearts of our children. We learn what it feels like to experience His grace and watch Him bind our families together through difficulty. (Scriptures used in the podcast are listed on the blog post at durendawilson.com)Song at the end of the podcast is called "Hold Us Together" by Matt Maher
Moms, we are the ones our kids will look to the most to find out if God is really good. We spend the largest amount of time with them during their formative years. We are the ones who help them interpret the world around them. We want our kids to walk in TRUTH. We need to make sure that truth is being conveyed...in other words that they are not misinterpreting what’s going on around them.As parents, we are our kids' main advocates and the ones who should be defending their childhood.In this week's podcast, I am talking specifically about protecting our kids from the media. There are images flashing in so many places that our kids simply are not ready for. We have the privilege, but also the responsibility to shelter our kids in the ways that God leads us to so that they will be able to see what a good God we serve!Please share this podcast with other moms! (Scripture references and related posts are shared on my blog under Protecting Our Kids From Media, durendawilson.com)
Technology has exploded in the last several years. There are no long term studies that have been done because of how quickly it is accelerating, but the short term ones already show that technology is impacting our anxiety levels. We need to navigate this area of our lives with wisdom and discernment that only God can give us.
Our daughter, Jenna is joining us! She is married to Sam and has an almost 3 yr old, Avi.You will get perspectives from 2 generations AND a homeschool graduate...plus Jenna is a whole lot of fun!
We will talk about what it looks like to use discernment, discuss potential fallout, how to know and yield to God's boundaries, and ways to unplug.
I hope you will take the time to listen to this podcast! You won't want to miss it and you will probably want to share it with a friend!
Overcoming Anxiety: How What Makes Us Panic Can Help Us (Podcast 8)
This is the second part of our series on Overcoming Anxiety. It's a series that is for any woman, mom or homeschooling mom, so please share and don't forget to listen all the way to the end of this podcast. There's a song waiting for you there. Close your eyes and let the Holy Spirit wash over you and refresh your spirit!
Anxiety can be debilitating or, at the very least, distracting. God wants us to find courage in Him and the good things He has for us. I firmly believe that He uses anxiety to get our attention and as we slow our hearts to listen to Him, He begins to bring redemption to many areas of our lives.
As we remember His great love for us and yield to His plan for our lives, we have the privilege of watching Him give beauty for ashes.Go to this post on my blog to read the show notes, Scripture references, and lyrics to the song (Beauty for Ashes by Chris McClarney)
Anxiety is becoming an epidemic, yet those of us who struggle with it feel alone. What does God have to say about anxiety? Where might my anxiety be coming from? (NO it's NOT wrong to feel anxious)
These are just a few questions we are going to tackle as we unpack the part that anxiety seems to play in so many of our lives. We will hold it up to the Word while addressing the practicalities that go along with it.
Scriptures shared: Matthew 6:25-34 (NLT),Philippians 4:4-7 (NLT), Proverbs 14:8 (NLT), Psalm 16:5,6 (NIV)
Song shared at the end of the podcast is called Hurricane by Natalie Grant:You're spinning out of control againYour life feels like a sinking shipYou're wondering how it came to thisIs it too late?Is it too far?For Him to reach youAnd come to where you areStep out on the edgeDon't be afraid of itAnd when you feel the rainCall His nameHe'll find you in the hurricaneYou're in the wreckage underneathYour hope is buried somewhere deepYou're wondering how long it will keep?It's never too lateNever too farFor you to reach outAnd take a hold of loveStep out on the edgeDon't be afraid of itAnd when you feel the rainCall His nameHe'll find you in the hurricaneDon't back down from the fightHe'll shelter you tonightJust hold on for the changeCall His nameHe'll find you in the hurricaneThere's a place, there's a place you can runWhen you fall, and it's all come undoneYou'll be safe in the raging stormSo just let go'Cause you are held in His armsStep out on the edgeDon't be afraid of itAnd when you feel the rainCall His nameHe'll find you in the hurricaneOh ohAnd when you feel the rainCall His nameHe'll find you in a hurricane
We know that God wants us to slow down, to take a more unhurried heart into our homeschooling days, but that doesn't always change the fact that we have an inward battle to overcome! In this podcast, I will talk about what the battle REALLY is and how to overcome! I share tons of powerful scripture that I encourage you to go read and study for yourself. You can find those and any other references in the show notes on my blog!
It's important that we don't just educate our kids' minds, but that we nurture and educate the WHOLE child. Today I'm going to talk about learning to trust your instincts as homeschooling parents and some of the nuances of that. I have more notes as well as resources on this post at my blog, durendawilson.com Thanks for being here!
I am just going to be straight up honest with you. This podcast message came so clearly from the Lord, I would be a fool to say otherwise. Sometimes He just does that and this is one of those times. I was supposed to cover chapter 3 of my book, but what God laid on my heartfelt so urgent and flowed so well with chapter 4 (How We Homeschooled) that I am doing that chapter this week and will cover chapter 3 next week.
Moms, this is a message of freedom. "Whom the Son has set free is FREE INDEED!!" This is also a message of love from God to you.
Here's a question for all of us: Are we willing to look foolish in order to walk in obedience to God's plan for our families?
What if part of looking foolish for the sake of the cross is raising and educating our kids in a way that seems very different from the world? This is the heart of what I am sharing today! (Resources and scripture I mention in this podcast are listed on the coordinating blog post)
Could we be running past the work God is giving us because we have a hurried, narrow vision of what we're "supposed" to be doing?Does my pace feel like a gentle breeze or more like a hurricane?Why is slowing down so beneficial in homeschooling our kids and how does it relate to us and our relationship with God?These are questions we need to ask ourselves if we really want to cultivate a more authentically unhurried life with our families. In this podcast, we will also talk about how love really is NOT hurried, what that actually looks like and how to recognize the enemy's tactics so we can defeat his attempts to discourage us!